She called me early in the morning asking to talk with me immediately, because it was urgent. Her boss wanted to discuss with her today at 11.00 o’clock and he didn’t tell her why. I mentioned to her that it was out of our agreement but on the other hand i could hear her voice crying for help… We met one hour later and she was really stressed. I asked her to close her eyes and take some deep breaths again…and again. After that, she examined some reasons for her boss to ask her for this discussion and she thought what (?) she wanted to be her attitude in this meeting. If she would like to give it another chance or if she wanted to continue in her first plan. Decided to continue in her first plan we’ve done a role-play to be in the moment more ready. Leaving our session she was more relaxed and more determined than when we started.
“In our next session i will be free” she told me when we met. In this meeting she described her last days in her job and how much relaxed she felt day by day after her last discussion with her boss. We kept her energy level back to the ground and explore more her attitude towards the last days.
Seventh Session & Eighth session & Ninth session
- 01/09/13 & 08/09/13 & 14/09/13
We used a lot of visualization to see herself the way she wanted in the future, a lot of relaxation breathing to learn to keep herself calm in difficult situations and she dig more in her underlying beliefs. We investigate difficult possibilities, according to the circumstances of the current economy in the state, and she planned carefully her financials until her new job as an employee or as a freelancer. Until then she could have her unemployment allowance every month.
Again a sudden call . She apologized for this out of agreement meeting that she was asking but they called her for an interview and she wanted to be prepared for next morning. We used role-play again and again to have a more accurate sense of her attitude and feelings in the moment.
There wasn’t any outcome from her interview,… they wanted “something else”,… she was overqualified for their needs. I acknowledge her about her clarity and nerve to immediately dig by herself and not in my presence, what was they’re looking for. She understood that it was a matter of appearance and youths, that she didn’t have. Of course it had hurt her, but she could handle it. She had moved on and found her real values, proud and strengths.
In our last meeting she explored some business ideas. We review from where she had started and where she was now and we celebrate it with wishes of a better life in a better future. She felt most satisfied, that she could see herself as a dynamic journalist and not a like a looser employee. She have a lot of boundaries to go through in front of her, but she felt confident for her ability to manage difficult situations and the reassurance from me that if she would need me, i could be her coach again.
Coaching Model Used “OSKAR”
The coaching model used in this coaching relationship was OSKAR. So at the beginning of almost every session, the client confirmed the outcome that she desired to have in the end of it and rearrange if needed the final goal.
- What is the one thing you want to go away from this session, with?
- If you succeed it, will it make a difference to your final goal?
After that, there was evaluation of accountability, in her current situation, just by scaling the level of success among the goal wanted. The client started from sort time goals and a low percentage of “hits”. But after evaluating the reasons of wanted and not wanted results until the present moment , and rearranging the next step and the next step, customized every time in the appreciated outcome, scaling, became a great tool, having time by time a better aftereffect.
- If you where a close and sincere friend of yours, how would you evaluate, in a scale from 1-10 , your progress in this goal after our last session?
- What would you do different to have achieved a better percentage of a satisfied outcome?
- How would you reward yourself next time if you get 20% more positive score?