A Coaching Model Created by Brett Avelin
(Awareness/Thought Coach, UNITED STATES)
S.E.L.F. stands for S.imple E.asy L.ight and F.un
When we are coming from this place of our essential S.E.L.F. then these are some of the characteristics that naturally arise from there. Therefore the basis for this model lies in coming from this authentic place as evidenced by these. This does not mean that all of these qualities must be present, there may be only one or they overlap and dance back and forth. Whichever phase of the model one is in, the quality and success of that phase is determined by whether one is grounded in the S.E.L.F.
If none of the aforementioned characteristics are present then it is the job of the coach to question, point, invite, and use whatever tools may arise in order to establish the conversation to become rooted again in the S.E.L.F. It is from this place that all true creativity is born, all innovation takes place, and all positive change comes in to the world.
If we are not centered in this, then by default we are engaging with life and with our coach from the small s.e.l.f. This stands for s.erious e.goic l.eft brained f.olly.
From this place we are stuck in the mode of manipulation, judgement, criticism, and jockeying for better position or advantage in life. All of these being born of fear in which there is nothing simple, easy, light or fun about us and naturally our results will carry the residue of these characteristics because everyone and everything we have interacted will have been affected by them.
The Five Phases within this model are drawn from the 5 phases of Chinese Medicine. They have a natural synergistic effect as one feeds the next and they circulate continuously.
Explore Authentic Desire – The Element of Water
This is the first phase that we explore in the process, the element of water. Water is represented by the season of winter. Winter is the seed energy out of which every project and manifest creation is born. There can be no manifest existence without this phase. In exploring our authentic desire we may use a question such as “What do you want?”. Or from a more objective, open perspective “What is wanted in this situation?”. This second question really allows our smaller self to get out of the way and allow a deeper intuition to arise as to what is authentically wanting to happen. Water is the element is the connection point to our deepest selves, it comes forth from a place of quietude and listening.