As a couch, it will be important to remember that we’re here to listen, to ask questions, to support, but not to control the situation or our clients. Control in one’s personal life is what we should have, until we’re for some reason no longer able to have it any longer. Coaching is to help our clients achieve that greatest sense of power.
Self Reflection/Coaching questions:
- Do you feel in control of your life? If not, when was the last time you felt that feeling?
- What does being in control mean to you?
- Would you describe yourself as more “in control” or “controlling”
- What feelings do you feel when you think of being “in control”?
- If you don’t believe you’re “in control” of your life, why?
- What could you do to feel more in control?
Anchor, Shawn The Happiness Advantage, New York, Crown Business, 2010
Seligman, Martin E.P., Learned Optimism, New York, Vintage Books, 2006
“No one is in control of your happiness but you: therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change” –Barbara de Angelis