A Coaching Power Tool created by Donna Willis
(Self Awareness/Emotional Intelligence Coach, UNITED STATES)
Our very existence is conceived from the very first act of pleasure experienced through the connecting of two people. We are then birthed into our own breath and individual being through an experience of pain – for someone.
The scientific world can confirm today that a child in the womb knows the experience of pleasure or comfort – as we have seen a fetus sucking its thumb in the womb. A child sucks their thumb because it is the first survival technique they will need when that first breath of individuality is taken – they must want to eat and find pleasure in eating. Or they die.
We are born pleasure seekers from birth all shrouded in the most contrasting experience of not any one of us being free from knowing pain.
Pain is the great contrast between what we want and what we have. What we are experiencing and what we desire to experience. It defines what can harm us and what can serve us. Pain has a great function in our lives as a master defining reaction, paradigm and evaluator.
We experience pain when our lives do not align with the pleasure we desire. Pain is the yearning for something different, something secure when we are insecure. Does pain in this moment motivate us or paralyzes us? It can do both. How can we know what pain is trying to tell us?
How can pain be an indicator to what we really want?
Pain brings us to a state of reaching for pleasure that seems beyond our reach at the moment of pain – BUT it gives us a direction – a desire – to feel “good” again.
By becoming familiar with the opposite feeling of pain which is pleasure or feeling good we learn a lot about ourselves, our desires and our yearnings.