What are the causes of delay? Coaching is all about action, so what do we do when our clients are in delay? In this video Nick Bosk explains the different causes of delay. Learn about delay and how you can deal with it in your coaching practice.
Summary
(0:00 ) What are the causes of delay?
(0:17) To begin, lets talk about action!
(0:19) Action is the key to building momentum
(0:35) Delay may be procrastination
(0:41) 4 main areas, or types of delay
(0:51) How does delay show for you?
(0:55) The Delay of Fear
(1:27) Misunderstanding what fear is, can lead to a melt down
(1:32) The Delay of Judgment
(1:45) A Coach must release themselves from judgment to be able to help a client
(2:00) The Delay of Commitment (or lack of commitment.)
(2:47) Make a commitment for yourself which is not based on others
(3:01) The Delay of Underlying Beliefs
To identify delay I want to begin with the opposite, Action. Action versus Delay. Now, we know action is the key to building any momentum, any goal, any future progress in our life. Action is the number one thing you look at in coaching. Coaching and action are hand in hand so then if we know that action is key, why does delay keep coming in? Delay may be procrastination, it may be holding off on a project. It can show it’s face in many ways. But there are 4 main areas I want to talk about to help us to understand how delay shows itself often in coaching and in everyday life. So, as you’re listening to this, think about yourself and do you see yourself in any of these 4 different areas of delay?
1. Delay of Fear
Number one and probably the strongest is fear, the delay of fear. This fear may be of failure, maybe of change, maybe of the unknown, maybe of success, not being able to handle the success that is in front of you. Fear’s impact is seen by freezing us; freezing us in our footsteps. We are unable to move or to create any momentum because we are so frozen in fear and often when we get to a place where we change our perspective or begin to change without doing the basic understanding of what that fear is, we have a meltdown. So fear of failure is one of our main delays.
2. Delay of Judgement
Judgments are a huge part of why we are delayed. So this is judging yourself but also judging those around you. So we often talk in coaching as one of the first things we must do is to release ourselves from judgment. You must view the client with their own unique worldview, then we can help our client do this as well but first by identifying that there is a judgment there in the first place.
3. Delay of Not Being Committed
Number three is the delay of not being committed. Commitment is key to go hand in hand with action. So this may take the form of good intentions, you know I had intended to, but you never did that. I was never able to take action in this area. You know a great example is the commitment of going to the gym. I will do it tomorrow but then tomorrow comes but you are not at the gym and the week goes by, year goes by and you find yourself actually beating yourself up that you never went to the gym even though you think you may have thought of it and put it on your to-do list, but you truly were committed. So it is often better not to put something on your list unless you are truly committed because well then you use that to further delay yourselves going back up to number 2 which is judgments. Also with commitment is to make sure it is your commitment and not someone else’s view for you. Often we don’t take action on things or are as committed to things if someone else is forcing that upon us so make sure that your commitments are your own.
4. Delay Through Underlying Beliefs
Now, number 4 is one of my favorites to look at in coaching and it is underlying beliefs or underlying automatic commitments. There are those things within us that we don’t even realize that we are committing to, there are patterns or behaviours our mindsets that until someone else comes in and helps us to understand ourselves a bit more, we really have not even known they were there so underlying beliefs are probably the most intrusive of everything that has to do with delay versus action.
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