In relation to ourselves, when we embark on behavior change an awareness of the relationship of our behaviors to our dreams, goals, and aspirations can encourage this transformation. In relation to others, putting ourselves in other’s shoes of how they perceive our behavior can be a little bit distressing. This holds true especially, when they don’t view us the way in which we view ourselves. Be it as it may, being aware of how others perceive us can motivate us to change our behavior (Bracken, Timmreck, & Church, 2001). Certainly, we might not like various behaviors that we do but with proper awareness we can promote a change in a different direction.
Challenging our behaviors with questions such as: What did I learn from this? How do I want to be? How do I want to be perceived? These can all be very powerful in developing behavioral awareness. People who try to resolve various behaviors need to realize that focusing on the behavior alone will never get to the source of the issue (Brown, Hansen, Chopra, & Mikiah, 2008). The key to behavior awareness is the link between how we act and what we want to accomplish. Many times someone might act in a certain way but there may be underlying issues that result in these behaviors. Getting to the root of the behavior will allow us to make real and lasting change.
We see that the relationship of awareness to our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors is not limited to knowing what we think, feel, and do. Awareness is being in touch with our true selves. It is understanding why we think, feel, and behave in certain ways.
When we have awareness, we are making conscious decisions and we are empowered and moving forward. Our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are deliberate and significant because we have such clarity of who we truly are and what we really want.
With awareness our thoughts are no longer on “autopilot.” Instead, they are consciously and deliberately dancing along because we understand why we think this way.
With awareness we are in touch with our emotions to the point where we know which situations spark certain feelings and we are prepared to deal with them.
With awareness our behaviors are learning models to build responsibility and growth with change.
This is the foundation of self-awareness. Once you have the capacity to notice your thoughts, feelings, and body all other great things will emanate from that (Wilson, 2011). When awareness is implemented into our daily lives, we will not and cannot be the same.
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