Research Paper By Rupika Bhargava
(Life Transformation and Parenting Coach , SINGAPORE)
Change Your Belief Change Your Life Cognitive Behavioral Technique (CBT)
Since, the day we were born, we have experienced every moment of our lives with lots of emotions. Every experience is different based on our perceptions. Our perceptions are based on our thoughts. Our thoughts to perceive something triggers a series of emotions which make our actions.
Our actions may be positive or negative leave us with happiness or sadness or leave us wondering why this is to happen to us.
Slowly, similar actions over the years shape as beliefs and we feel that it’s normal to have these beliefs. Some beliefs knowingly unknowingly, are given by our culture, society, our parents and teachers or the people we are surrounded by. If a parent keeps telling a child that he or she is stupid, the child starts believing that he can’t be smart and is less confident in whatever he or she does. These beliefs over the years are present in a subconscious mind and inhibit our growth in the present.
CBT can be used in all the areas of life by adults, parents and children. I have been using with children and parents and among adults in their relationships example in marital relationships, parent child relationship and self-relationship. . CBT is a wonderful tool to awareness. I have used it on myself and have practiced in many situations of my life.
According to Aaron Beck, an American psychotherapist put forward that his clients always had a link between the self talk and their feelings. He discovered that the clients are always not aware of these automatic thoughts and also was not aware of their feelings. These thoughts laden with negative emotions are often unconscious. If the client identifies these emotions linked thoughts they could learn to overcome their problems.