First time he really re-framed a perspective:
By the end of the session, he said he had understood that by making the choice to accept his sexuality, and change the way he saw himself, also the way he saw the world had changed. That day I decided I was going to help him work a little bit more, on the tangible parts, those that made part of his everyday life, but that he could easily measure and see.
For the last week of the month I kept asking him what did he see in the world, so that he would maybe see more clearly that he wasn’t having a positive, optimistic view of the world around him, and so that he could see all of the other possibilities and perspectives, the ones that really were positive, and would empower him.
David began taking positive action. He started coming to the sessions telling me about the little changes he was making in his life, how he was allowing himself to look at other man, and how he was responding to them when they looked at him. By the end of the month he even told me he was getting close to this one man he had met and how much he enjoyed his company and how he would feel empowered and happy afterwards.
He was also starting to acknowledge himself, it was clear that his confidence was rising, that he was having a more positive perspective of his life, to empower himself and to feel more comfortable with the man he was.
That month we worked on his values. He drew an image of himself ad drew on it eight values he lived by. Then I asked him to chose the top five, and we started working, based on this, in the analysis of them as the foundation of everything he created now in his life, his behavior and his way of thinking. David showed me he was understanding this exercise when he told me that he thought that thoughts were the product of his own values –not the product of his beliefs, because he had understood that not all of them were to be considered positive or true- and that those would then become actions.
This month we worked a lot with powerful questions and powerful listening, creating action and self-awareness. I was hoping for David to grow stronger so that for our last two sessions next month he would be prepared for facing the idea of coming out to his parents and family back home.