A Coaching Power Tool Created by Yassine Chaker
(Business Coach, TUNISIA)
1. Which ICA Power Tool do you think is the most powerful? Why?
I think that the most powerful aspect is that we explore those power tools during the training. One of the most powerful section is “REFRAMING PERSPECTIVES” .
Reframing is seeing the current situation from a different perspective, which can be tremendously helpful in problem solving, decision making and learning.
Reframing is helping you or another person to more constructively move on from a situation in which you or the other person feels stuck or confused.
The aim of reframing is to shift one’s perspective to be more empowered to act – and hopefully to learn at the same time.
Many times, merely reframing one’s perspective on a situation can also help people change how they feel about the situation, as well.
Many fields regularly use reframing, including therapy, coaching and even marketing and sales. Techniques of reframing can also be used to cultivate creative and critical thinking skills.
When working to reframe perspective on a situation, consider the following basic guidelines. Keep in mind that, even though the following examples are about another person’s comments, you can use the guidelines to shift your own perspectives, as well.
Shift from passive to active
For example, if the other person said, “I really doubt that I can do anything about this,” you might respond, “What is one small step that you might take?”
Shift from negative feeling to positive feeling
For example, if the other person said, “I don’t want to work on that now because it makes me feel sad,” you might respond, “What small part of that might you work on for now, that might even leave you feeling a bit more happy?”*
2. In your experience what is the single thing that MOST gets in the way of clients achieving the goals they set for themselves?
I think that there is lot of things that gets in the way of clients achieving the goals they set for themselves and that they may be the source of those obstacles.
According to my short experience in coaching I think that ONE of the most important factors is the negativity.
We are living surrounded by a storm of negativity that hold us from seeing the positive side and from generating positive thinking which leads to see things differently and to wear different lenses.
The negativity generates a feeling of powerlessness.
The good news is that: it’s easy to be out of this storm; all that you have to do is get into a STORM of positivity (contact positive persons, hear what they are saying, hear positive thought, and find a coach…)
3. If you could shift the thinking or beliefs of every client you coach in ONE way what would that be?
The first step will be to invite the client to safe, calm and neutral space.
After that I will support him in his journey.
I usually use the “Visualisation” process: he close his eyes take a deep breath and visualise how to shift from Disempowering situation to empowering one.
4. What is the most powerful perspective you can apply to any challenging experience?
“Perception” is the most powerful perspective to apply for any challenging experience.
We see different things when we are wearing different lenses.
5. Consider a significant recent event or situation you or someone around you experienced. Look for the perspectives held by those involved. Consider the following exploratory questions:
- What challenges and/or successes were involved in this experience?
- What perspectives or beliefs were present in the circumstances?
- Were challenging circumstances transcended with a change of perspective or point of view?
- How did you or those around you change the way they perceived matter and, as a result, experienced an improve mood (embodied beliefs), found new choices, and took new action?
Choose a Perspective
With you reflections from step one in mind, consider a point of view that limits possibilities creating a ‘stuck feeling’ that inhibits growth, self-awareness or opportunity for taking action and moving forward.
Example: fear, scarcity, insecurity
Now consider a more empowering perspective or attitude to the one chosen above. It doesn’t have to be the exact opposite point of view – just one that is more likely to create new ways of thinking and creative actions.
Example: trust, abundance, adequacy.
Describe and Define
Define and/or describe each of the perspectives you choose. You can do this in any order you prefer – starting with one perspective and then the other or go back and forth between the two to make the distinction.
Motivated vs. Unmotivated
How many times have you said to yourself that you’re going to do something, but you end up not following through with it because you weren’t motivated enough? You end up crossing that workout, call to a friend, study session, or shopping trip off your To-Do List without even completing the task.
Switching from being Unmotivated to motivated mode require that we analyse the causes and to know the Why behind.
Let’s start by some definition.
Unmotivated as described in the Merriam Webmaster dictionary: having no desire to do or succeed at something, lacking an appropriate or understandable motive, lacking drive or enthusiasm.
According to some research that I have done unmotivated feeling could be generated from different sources:
- when we see only the bad side of every that happen:
The pessimistic view of success is related to the storm of negativity that surround us from the economic crisis that we are living, persons that meet and the education that we received in our childhood.
- When we set up unrealistic goals:
There is a dilemma when we set up our goals; because from one side we need to think bigger and from the other side we need to reach some goals/success story (even small goals) to increase our self-esteem.
In the business world when we start working on a project we do WBS (work-breakworwn-structure), which define the entire job to be graphically subdivided into manageable work elements.
- The unwilling to work harder:
Being distracted by social media and expect to have immediate gratification.
- play the blame game: “When you blame others you give up your power to change. ~Robert Anthony”
Successful people take full responsibility for their wins and losses. The don’t play the blame game. They refuse to go through life finger-pointing and making excuses. They are pro-active instead of reactive, moving forward toward their goals and dreams and taking responsibility for every step of the journey.
They refuse to play the victim.
Instead, they use the lessons learned in the school of hard knocks as stepping-stones to greatness rather than as a crutch for mediocrity.
Coaching Case :
Magy bring to the coaching environment the feeling of lack of motivation since she starts this new job opportunity.
I supported Magy during the coaching session and give her the safe, calm and convenient space to explore the why and the how.
Magy explained that she doesn’t know what to do to feel better, she is aware that the unmotivated feeling is attracting her down and that she feels bad about it.
Throughout power listening and powerful questioning and according to what she said I asked her some questions such:
- Do you find it hard to admit when you’re wrong?
- Do you focus a lot on the past instead of looking toward the future?
- Do you use other people’s irresponsible behaviour to justify your own?(For example, “They’re doing nothing and they got same bonus as you, so why should I work harder?”)
- Do you find it difficult to apologize to others? Do you view apologizing as a sign of weakness or as a sign of strength?
- Do you believe life is unfair and often feel sorry for yourself?
- Do you feel powerless to change anything in your life for the better?
According to her response she is aware that she is playing the role of blame and that’s why she feels unmotivated but she doesn’t know how to find out option to get out and change this behaviour.
Motivated as described in the Merriam Webmaster dictionary : something that arouses action or activity, the act or process of giving someone a reason for doing something : the act or process of motivating someone, the condition of being eager to act or work : the condition of being motivated.
Synonyms boost, encouragement, goad, impetus, incentive, incitation, incitement, instigation, momentum, impulse, provocation, spur, stimulant, stimulus, yeast
Our behaviour is driven by underlying forces–the things that make us tick and that give meaning to our existence. Our motivations are the core of our identity; they modify or strengthen the different facets of our personality and give them direction.
The following is an introduction to the six major sources of motivation inherent in human behaviour. You may recognize yourself in one, two or even three of these descriptions, considering that motivation, like behaviour, is rooted in various sources.
According to Eduard Spranger works on motivation written in his book “types of men” there is 6 major source of motivation:
COGNITIVE motivation: TRUTH AND KNOWLEDGE
His needs: To “objectively” learn, understand, discover and systematize the truth based on rational, proven theories. Values intellectual curiosity and knowledge.
AESTHETIC Motivation: BEAUTY AND SELF-ACTUALIZATION
His needs: To sense the beauty in and around me, to “subjectively” follow his Intuition and inspiration; to surround himself with beauty. Values personal fulfillment and growth.
UTILITARIAN Motivation: RETURN ON INVESTMENT
His needs: To invest time, money and energy in a useful, profitable and effective way, usually for the purpose of achieving his objectives. Values results and profitability.
ALTRUISTIC Motivation: HUMANISM AND SELF-SACRIFICE
His needs: To feel useful and to contribute to the well-being of others. To improve the lives of others. To invest time and energy in serving others with deep generosity and self-sacrifice. Values mutual support and kindness.
INDIVIDUALISTIC Motivation: LEADERSHIP AND RECOGNITION
His needs: To exercise leadership in order to consolidate his personal power and responsibility; to be self-reliant and independent; to gain recognition for his individuality and uniqueness. Values leadership qualities and social prestige.
IDEOLOGICAL Motivation: UNITY AND MORALITY
His needs: To be consistent with his values and/or cause. His principles guide his actions and thinking. He seeks ways to improve life in general. His system of values and code of ethics are important to him.
After 3 sessions of coaching and throughout some techniques and powerful questions such :
- How do you motivate yourself to get work done after trying many things and failing over and over again?
- If for a moment you start to feel overwhelmed by the complexities of life, how do you simplify to get where you want to be?
- What’s the habit requiring the least effort that makes the greatest difference?
- What would be the 10 most motivating words you could say to yourself every morning?
- How could you enjoy your work more?
Reacting to those questions and others, Magy feel empowered and she comes up with different ideas, she said that she feels energetic when it comes to work on rational staff and that she is also too much happy if they give her tasks about return on investment (ROI).With this mind, Magy tried to plan a new way to perform her work, she was amazed when she come up with ideas how to manage the same tasks that she’s doing differently and how much this makes her feel lighter.
Magy draw a plan to follow after the coaching sessions and we have planned a session after 1 month to discuss if everything goes as she wants.
After 1 month,Magy was happy and more motivated,the plan worked for her and her relationship with their colleagues ameliorated. She is doing things faster and more energetic.