A Coaching Power Tool created by V.S.Kumar
(Success Coach, INDIA)
What is significance?
Significance is a state of mind where a person is overshadowed by the dark side of an event of life which is a constant up and down rhythm. The concept of significance and lightness can be best understood by the ying yang ball. Significance is that dark portion of ying yang were the individual puts himself into asking a number of questions like
- WHY ME?
- WHERE IS MY REEP?
- IS THIS HOW IT ALL ENDS?
All such inner dialogue puts the individual pulls the individual in the dark side of the ying yang balance where he is blindfolded to see the infinite positive outcome of this current event.
Character traits in the significance zone:
- wrong appraisals or constant pre judgmental decisions
- Low self esteem and poor self awareness
- Display of anger due to the so thought disappointment
- Inaction and procrastination
What is Lightness?
Lightness is again a state of mind wherein the individual is able to understand and appreciate the infinite positive outcomes prevailing in the same situation or event of life. He is able to detach himself from the strings of significance and liberates himself to positive thinking and actions. Lightness is the white or the bright side of the ying yang were the individual appreciates inert potential and re-frames the situation into a set of positive beliefs such as:
- Hey! Let me explore something new !
- I can see the light at this end of the tunnel!
- I believe.. I can.. And I will!
Character traits in the lightness zone:
- Bundle of positive energy and display of “I can”
- Appropriate self awareness to apply right appraisal
- Display of respect and happiness
- Acts to move forward
Every situation presents the individual with two choices
- Significance > Lightness
- Lightness > significance
When S > L then, as a coach one can apply the “SEE FEEL CHANGE GROW “model introduced by me which would facilitate positivity and transformation in the correct path resulting in Lightness.
When L > S then, the result of the “SEE FEEL CHANGE GROW” model takes shape and the individual enters the room full of positivity and Lightness leading to happiness.