to who we really are, the flow of Life Force energy is released from within. It flows through us and into our lives.(Odom, 2009)
The underlying beliefs of the client are very important in terms of their sense of aliveness. Underlying beliefs may be at work if the client is detached from the close members of their community or society, along with the feeling that they may be very different from others in their community. It is difficult to change those beliefs as they are accumulated over time and may become core beliefs of the person. The coach supports the client to bring awareness about the blocking underlying beliefs which prevent the client toward taking action steps to be fully alive. Asking powerful questions can have a strong impact on discovering underlying beliefs related to aliveness. Below are some powerful questions the coach can use.
There are various methods the coach can use with the client. Powerful questions is most effective one as the coach can ask the client to explore together what stops and stimulate the client toward being in aliveness state of life:
- What is being alive mean to you vs. just living?
- Can you think of a time when you just felt pure joy and happy to be alive?
- What is the most urgent change you want to make now in order to be alive?
- What is stopping you from taking an action now?
- Where does your life headed at this moment?
- What is your inner thought/voice is telling you?
- What steps you can talk toward being alive (based on your own definition of aliveness)?
- What skills you have or need to be acquired to support you to become an alive person?
Through imagination, we can visualize the uncreated worlds of potential that lie within us… Because we already live with many scripts that have been handed to us, the process of writing our own script is actually more a process of re-scripting, or paradigm shifting—of changing some of the basic paradigms that we already have. As we recognize the ineffective scripts, the incorrect or incomplete paradigm within us, we can proactively begin to re-script ourselves.
The coach can ask the client, “Can you visualize your current life vs. your desired full of aliveness life?” Visualizing is also a great instrument the coach can use to explore with the client Aliveness vs. Just Living. It supports the client with the help of the coach to change the perspective of the client.
As we saw in the case study at the beginning of this paper, visualization can be a very effective tool in moving people to a more positive state of aliveness.
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