Neither the left side nor the right can be called ‘good or bad’ per se. Just about everything we do – when done well – involves both of these, however, only the left column offers us a possibility of choosing very well when the stakes are high when we consider: our knowledge of all that is is like a drop of water in the oceanic universe.
To be a peaceful human being we must adopt some measure of trust which includes reliance on our intuition. Listening to our ‘gut’ and choosing ‘with our hearts’ may be the ‘logically’ smartest thing we can do, after all.
We have also all had those ‘other days’. Those days where nothing we do seems to go right and no decision seems to be the right one. We second guess and scold ourselves throughout the day and it only seems to make the bad things worse! Have you ever traced that day backwards to the very beginning of its downturn… sometimes we need to trace back weeks or even months. But, always, there seems to be a turning point and that is always associated with an inner disturbance or fear.
The common denominator to these ‘other days’ is always a beginning of ‘lack of peace’. The counter to the underlying theme of those ‘good days’. The great day has an element of trust and peace while the bad day always begins with an element of fear and doubt. The great news is that there are ways to actually be proactive rather than just let the day create itself. Of course you have noticed some people seem to have many more good days than bad and others always seem to have bad things happening all the time.
CREATE CALM in yourself and you will heighten your intuitive abilities. The greater your intuitive sensory mechanisms are working, the better chance you have of allowing that peaceful flow into your life. For small decisions and more importantly for the big decisions, first, tap into what appears to be the seat of intuition and that is your heart. Some refer to it as spirit, but, spiritual avatars and more recently, scientists (see heartmath.org) are finding that when focus and identification with ourselves leaves our head/brain area and moves to our heart area, for some reason, a calm comes about that actually clears and quiets the ‘static negative thinking’ that seems to act as an interference to this somewhat mysterious activity called intuiting.
Try beginning your coaching sessions with an intuition-amplifying exercise for both you and your client:
Simply ask your client (and yourself) to relax and take a deep breath and imagine that the breath is coming through your chest area around your hearts. On the out breath, describe the sensation of feeling the breath come out through the heart and the awareness of yourself DROPPING from your ‘head to your heart’.
Do the breathing two more times with reminder that the sensation is through the heart area of the body and then state something to the effect – “now leave just a little attention, like a faint smile, in the heart area during the rest of our session “…
It’s almost like being completely focused on where you are in the here and now but also being aware that i.e. a baby is in the next room and you are simultaneously paying attention to its needs and wants… OR/and similar to just viewing the session from a different chair i.e. the seat of the heart rather from the seat you normally take in the mind / head area.
Throughout the session you may want to ask some intuition-developing questions i.e.
- Read through the above list (Intuiting/Thinking) – read each word slowly and tell me, what do you feel with each word?
- How does that thought, “[repeat their statement back to them]” make you feel?
- Can you imagine that you are sitting down in your heart and ask yourself again what you would rather do?
- Is this what your mind says you ‘should’ do or is this something your heart ‘wants’ to do?
- Is this what you ‘want’? or is it what you ‘think’ you ‘should’ want?
- Can you put your hand on your heart and feel good when you state that belief?
- How does your thinking sometimes get in the way of your calm or your ability to make choices that feel right?
- How could any of the characteristics of INTUITING, listed above, be an asset in your coaching?
- Could intuiting help you stay more heart-focused before, during, and after the coaching process?