A Coaching Power Tool created by Jaahnavi Katti
(True Life Purpose Coaching, India)
Ankit wanted to know how to be in the Being. He was struggling to manage events and situations happening around him in his life and was at a loss to know what he could do to prevent certain situations go out of hand.He was dispirted,complaining and blaming people in his life for the state of affairs in his life.He justified he had been doing all that was possible by him and much more but inspite of this fact he was not finding happiness.So he wanted to just Be and stop doing.
The above case represents a typical way most people end up being in their lives,where they keep doing and doing for themselves and others and never find true happiness or meaning in their purpose .So they lead a disprited,frustrated and meaninglss life trying to blame others and thus giving away their power too others.
Being is a state of total acceptance of everything about you,all the parts of you whether you are liking it or not,acknowledging yourself and your existence at a deeper level,being ready to see your fears,observing them closely,allowing them to be there.So it is with other emotions like anger, jealousy, guilt,regret,resentment or sadness.It is accepting your feelings at a core level,not resisting them but acknowledging them and then choosing to let go of them.
Doing is a state of activity where you are more involved in reaching targets,goals you have set or want to set.In doing you are keeping yourself busy all the time not giving yourself the space to Be.You are always in a state of flux.There are always agendas to think about ,plans to follow or bring alignment with,goals to reach,so you always have a To Do list ready to dispose off.
When you are being not doing you are active still,there are thoughts in your head,you may be involved in an activity,keeping yourself busy but your mind is still,it is poised,centered and you are connected to your Being,that is you are connected to your inner self,you may call it soul,spirit or your higher mind.This state is a natural state where you can still be in the midst of activities but you are aware of your inner being,your thoughts and feelings and you are acknowleging them.So when you acknowledge you are in a state of acceptance .This state of self acceptance is the highest form of Self Awareness because you will be in alignment with what you truly want in life or who you truly are in life.Your true life purpose or your calling becomes very clear to you and then you begin to make conscious choices in life.
When you start living consciously you start being your true self.This inner connection,this alignment is very powerful and in this powerful space we Human Beings realize what life is all about.Whatever we think,whatever we believe or whatever we feel is what we truly are at that moment.In this space of truth we realize we are powerful to make choices,we accept everything about us,about others,everything about life and start living our true lives.We become aware, conscious about our choices and how everything in our life is a conseqence of the choices we made in that moment.We stop resisting,all the resistance,the inner noise,the clutter,the clinging on to thoughts and feelings which we are holding on to for years comes to light and we realize we now have a power to choose,to keep them or let go of them.This gives us a great space of Being.We realize the big space around us and the power to choose what we want.So there is no more struggle.We are constantly taking actons which we choose and feel peaceful about our choices because we are conscious of Being ourselves.This brings a greater joy in Life.So Being easy,joyful, having possibilities.
Being is all about awareness of who you are in the given moment.It is a space of creativity where you can create what you want in fact co-create with God or the higher Self or Energy that you believe in.You are conscously living,which produces the higher energies to flow in you.Your body ,mind and spirit are getting aligned to your true self and your higher purpose in life.Actions just flow out of you in the right direction ,your choices bring Joy,Happiness,Peace and Unconditional Love for yourself in a pure non-judgemental state of Being.
Doing is the reflectionn of yor beng.It teaches you what is giving you pleasure what is giving you pain.It brings you closer to your life by producing your life experiences and keeps you busy in the business of life.Doing is a part of Being.You can get tired of of doing but can you get tired of being? When you are being yourself you are very close to nature,you love to spend your time mindfully,you are graceful,you love to be near nature and you attract natural surroundings like water,birds,trees and you attract environments that are conducive to your inner growth and your evolution as a Human Being. There is a purpose in your actions which is in alignment with your highest values,beliefs and your perspective in life is clear,your vision is in front of you and you know you are moving towards it taking the right direction.Peace descends on you.You are connected to the source from where you draw the energy to do what you want.Then you know what to do in the moment intuitively.Doing becomes very natural to you.You dont struggle any more.You attract all that you want just by being.
Doing takes a limited time limit and maybe stressful due to timelines whereas Being is expansive and opens up a whole lot of horizons,possibilites and it is very energizing and empowering.
The Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu …….in Epigram 47 (55)
There is no need to run outside for better thing
Nor to peer from a window
Rather abide At the center of your Being
For the more you leave it the less you learn
Search your heart and see
If he is wise who takes each turn
The way to do is to be
Asking Powerful Questions for shifting perspectives from Doing to Being can be a powerful tool. As coaches we can be empowering by our presence and in our being.We realize just by being present in the moment we can be active listeners and those moments of our powerful presence can create great spaces for our clients to express and be their own natural selves, drop their fears and the connection between the coach and the client becomes strong and powerful.This is a space where there is no judgement and only a great space for Being where the client feels free to express his thoughts ,feelings,beliefs and gets his perspective clear and sees himself in a different light.He gets his answers ,sees his vision clearly,and his goals and action plan emerge in his path.
If as a Coach I can be aligned to my true life purpose or calling and just be in that space of Being my client starts being his natural self and finds all that he is seeking out of this coaching conversation and be aligned to his true life purpose.