Power Tool: Being Positive vs. Being Negative

A Coaching Power Tool Created by Duha Blaibleh
(Life Coach, JORDAN)

You can’t live positive life with negative mind”.

Positive thoughts can make miracles for you, it can shape your reality for the better.

The positive person doesn’t mean that he has no negative thoughts, it means that he can eliminate the negative thoughts not to affect him, or he can even cut it from its roots, and replace it with another positive thought.

Let’s take an example:

What if you once wake up in the morning and a positive thought just popped up in your mind, how would you feel, how would you react, you probably would feel happy, excited…etc

You may take positive action after that, you may go out for a walk, have a coffee with your friend, talk about many things, laugh, and you may talk about nice ideas or something excited you want to do…etc

But what if you wake up in the morning with negative thoughts, how would you feel, you will feel bad, tired, stressed…etc

You may act in a very negative way, you may not even smile, and probably you will not take any good action or take a negative one.

Differences between positive people and negative people:

Positive people Failure is part of learning, positive people will consider their failure as part of their learning and growing journey.   Obstacles as a challenge, positive people will consider obstacles as a challenge, and lookup for ways to overcome them.   Love feedback, they love to have feedback, so they will know what they can do better.   Focus on things under control, they focus on things under their control and use it to their own benefit.   Look forward and have an attitude of gratitude, and see the good side in every situation.

Negative people They will label it as a failure, they may not try to take another step forward.   They don’t like it, they love the easy way all the time and obstacles could let them fall.   They don’t love the have feedback they get offended.   They focus on things that aren’t under their control and take them as an excuse why they can’t go forward, why they can’t accomplish the desired goal.   They always try to focus on the grey line in every situation, they even don’t look forward.

Many other differences we could discuss between them.

Self Application:

You can ask yourself many questions to check in with ourselves.

Q1: what is really happening here?

Q2: what is bothering me?

Q3: What could I do about it?

Q4: what is under my control?

Q5: how I could eliminate it or stop it?

Q6: what first step could I take forward?

Q7: What motivates me?

Q8: What things make me happy or positive?

Q9: how I act when I feel positive?

Q10: what else could I do to be more positive?

Q11: what first step could I take?

Q12: what needs to be changed?

Q13: how do I feel now?

Coaching application

As a coach you could apply this in the coaching session with the client, by exploring the client’s attitude, behaviors, believes…etc

And create the awareness, so he could use it to take steps forward, and improve the quality of his life by change the mood from being negative to being positive.