- What characteristics of perfectionism are true for you? If there are some, do they serve you or do they seem to work against you?
- Are there areas in your life in which you hold lofty standards or demand perfect compliance from yourself? What is the result when you fail to reach these standards?
- How does it feel when you make a mistake? What do you do and what do you say to yourself?
- Are you ever afraid to try new things or make changes in your life? How does this influence your life, your sense of happiness, your sense of adventure, and your sense of growth?
- Are there any routines that you rigidly follow? What feelings do you experience when an event or person causes a change in the routine?
- Do your high standards or rigid beliefs impact or affect others in your life?
How do we embrace imperfection? What does it take to live and love from a place of worthiness? How do we cultivate what we need and let go of the things that are holding us back? The answers to all of these questions are courage, compassion, and connection. Our vulnerabilities are what force us to call upon these amazing tools. Because we are human and so beautifully imperfect, we get to practice using our tools on a daily basis. In this way, courage, compassion, and connection become gifts – the gifts of imperfection.
Brene Brown, Ph.D, The Gifts of Imperfection
People often seek out coaches in an effort to gain insight about their actions and behaviors, and for support to meet the goals they wish to achieve. As coaches, it is important for us to determine whether one of the reasons our client is having difficulty setting, maintaining, and/or reaching their goals is due to the need to “be perfect,” rather than live their life with a desire to “be magnificent.” Perfectionism may be observed in many different types of scenarios.