A Coaching Power Tool created by Bill Mayes
(Transformational Coaching, UNITED STATES)
- keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss; sharp sorrow; painful regret.
- a cause or occasion of keen distress or sorrow.
- the act or process, or a manner of growing; development; gradual increase.
- size or stage of development: It hasn’t yet reached its full growth.
- completed development.
- going beyond ordinary limits; surpassing; exceeding.
Grief is a normal human emotion. It’s an emotion that we tend to only consider when we think of the death of a loved one, but it is a keen sense of loss or sharp sorrow or painful regret. That definition does not require the death of another. And so at times in our lives we may find ourselves grieving the loss of a job or career, the absence of a treasured friend or the pain associated with a defeat in the sports arena. As a result, that keen, distinct, sharp and biting pain we may experience can also be termed as grief.
In the course of our lives we will encounter grief many more times than we tend to acknowledge. Ultimately, that is due to societies limiting belief that the presence of grief is only acceptable in the presence of the loss of a loved one, another living being. And although allowances are made for someone suffering grief at that time, there is also the expectation that a grieving person will either move through the experience fairly quickly or will keep their experience to themselves.
Growth on the other hand, some may view as the antithesis of grief. It is a stage of development, a period of gradual increase and maturation. Growth produces no slowing down of direction, it does focus in on the present. It is slowly and continually moving forward and ever increasing in its understanding and development.