Read their blogs, get their books, take courses with them, perhaps attend events where they speak. Accurate, sensible knowledge in these areas has great power to reveal gems for you to make your choices accordingly.
Seek to Understand
Before I can walk in another’s shoes, I must first remove my own – Unknown
Dr. Steven Covey’s Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood is that people form opinions based on their own experiences. (7 Habits of Highly Effective People)
The deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are – unique, one-of-a-kind. People won’t share their deepest feelings unless they feel genuine love and 
understanding. Once they feel it, they will probably give you more than you want to hear.Try to understand instead of judging. Be aware that “There’s another side to the story.”
With positive regard for the others’ opinion, accept them as they are and make your choices consciously…
Thoughts while choosing consciously…
- Making choices after considering both perspectives either right – wrong, good – bad
- Making conscious choices of words to express single event or experience
- Being aware of influences in your life and choosing your actions aligned to your true self
- Living your values and choosing to authentically reflect meaning in all relationships
- Choosing to spend time with family sharing joy
- Choosing to respond to challenges, disappointments as a learning process
- Understanding and acknowledging others perspective, with great respect and positive regard sharing your opinions
- Appreciating your own gifts as unique to your own journey
- Celebrating life – accepting what is
- Choosing when to let go of past learning and experiences that have served their purpose
- Integrating through self awareness all disempowering or empowering thoughts, emotionsas guidance to move forward
- Choosing a mind-set of gratitude and grace
- Choosing to work with teams, leaders with authenticity – appreciating strengths , celebrating differences
