My concern is not whether my Client is on my side. My greatest concern is to be on the Client’s side, for the Client is always right My Adapted Version
Mindfulness – this powerful stage, which invokes deep‐seated, innate and sub conscious planes of self – awareness both for the Coach while relating to Client’s narrations and storyline in the potential catharsis that would happen from Client’s perspective, to take the road less travelled by experiencing the “Here and Now” of being with the current moment and feelings around it. It is at this stage that awareness takes a complete nosedive and it is almost like unraveling the black box of the Client, reaching the “aha” moments, throwing off onion like layers, being with core self of the Client. The real experience for the Coach is to experience, being mindless, while being mindful. Therefore it is about the Coach consigning his/her mind and using this endowment which can come only with continuous practice, of attempting to be mindful and use mindlessness while Coaching. The real path way to achieve this is Self Discovery to Self Awareness, to Mindlessness. Just to reiterate and reinforce, this can be brought about only with practice and more practice. There is nothing that a Coach can claim mastery of this art, but be a life time
perpetual learner in mastering.
Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles and nerves every part of your body, be full of that idea and just leave every other idea, alone. This is the way to success Swami Vivekananda
I’m a very positive thinker and I think that’s what helps me the most in difficult moments Roger Federer
Once something is a Passion, the motivation is there Michael Schumacher
Live out of your imagination, not your history Stephen R Covey
Inspire Passion – the stage is set now for the Coach to let the Client build imageries, creative visualization, vividly describe about possibilities, identify success factors by dipping into similar or different past defining moments, incidents or phases in life, when the Client chose to be at his/her best, by reflection upon ultimate peak highs, that gave immense joy and satisfaction. The Coach by way of powerful questions, enables the client to experience in the “Here and Now” of enlivening experiences and memories of being at their best. The whole world of Client becomes transformational, with plethora of positive feelings, high energy levels, enhanced self esteem, acknowledging and appreciating self for having done and possessing a range of positive attitudes and capabilities. The spirits of heightened confidence, sense of rejuvenation, déjà vu, wanting to do an encore, wishing to multiply successes in future and willingness to go that extra mile are experienced. The Coach helps Client to identify their innate desires, be in touch with their life defining larger dreams, supporting to help them overcome challenges and difficulties. The key focus would be to identify their inherent Passions, calls of life and get in touch with their hidden potential and latent talents ready to be unleashed for their progress, growth and sustenance, for Clients to gain for themselves and impact those around them. The Client also is enabled to realize their strengths, attitudes, qualities, skills and values, as to what works for them best.
In order to carry a positive action, we must develop a positive Vision Dalai Lama
Nurture and Navigate – during this part of Coaching process, Coach hand holds the Client and helps him or her to feel cared for, nurtured and becomes highly supportive. Nurturing further boosts Client’s self image, self awareness, self motivation and helps them to get to the threshold stage of moving on to accountability, ownership and implement action plans. Navigating implies helping the Client to chart clear pathways, build appropriate support systems, create structures ascertain resources, choose network of people resources within family, at work and outside, introspect on contingency plans, test preparation and commitment levels. In short, Nurturing and Navigating processes, provide a penultimate nudge to construct an imperative bridge between the previous 6 stages [until Inspire Passion] and what remains to be explored in terms of the last step, viz. Dreams, Deeds and Destiny.
You have to Dream before your dreams can become true
Great dreams of great dreamers are always transcended
Dreams are not what occurs while you are asleep, but dreams are what keeps you awake, from sleeping A P J Abdul Kalam
When you do something best in life, you don’t really want to give that up – and for me it is tennis Roger Federer
When considering the stature of an athlete or for that matter any person I set great store in certain qualities, which I believe to be essential in addition to skill. They are that the person conducts his or her life with dignity, integrity, courage and perhaps most of all modesty. These virtues are totally compatible with pride, ambition and competitiveness Donald Bradman
Dreams, Deeds and Destiny – now the stage is set for the Coach to help the Client to indulge in creative visualization, connect the dots with the larger Dream/s, think of the big picture as to how their goals and ambitions can have an impact on the larger canvas of their lives and those significant others in family, work and elsewhere.
This process leads naturally to help the Client to convert their Dreams into specific Deeds which are fundamentally, concrete and specific action plans. Appropriate planning and goal setting is done and the Coach also helps [and challenges, if need be] to put legs to their Vision, Mission and Goals, by making the Clients clarify to accomplish their Dreams the first steps, formulating accountability, timelines, ownership anchoring, review processes, to measure and keep track of progress.
Destiny is all about the Coach facilitating the Client to visualize and work towards sustaining their resolutions, making them reflect about leaving a legacy, in terms of footprints, being a role model by demonstrating all the qualities, skills, values not only execute actions that they have planned but also develop sustainability in the long run and create a “Preferred Future”.
This is a powerful and life defining process and gives the Client “Flywheel in action” type momentum and acceleration. It’s akin to helping the Client experience the music and dance of life, with positivism and optimism. It’s in this juncture that the Client would experience extra ordinary confidence to tide over very difficult challenges, attempt real time high dreams and pursue their bigger Passions and Calls of life! Of course, there is no more greater joy for the Coach when the Client commits to be part of their bigger picture in life and more so when the Client, returns to share incremental and exponential progress, on the short and long term actions they have committed.
Needless to state, but to add, elements of rejoicing, celebrating and feeling satisfied about Client’s positive movements during the Coaching sessions and joining the celebration thereafter, can be expected only with hours, days, weeks, months, years and decades of practice. I sign off with optimism, while recalling Robert Frost’s poem:
Miles and miles to go before I sleep.
While this applies certainly to the Clients, it more so applies for Coaches and most definitely applies to me!
To change is to become perfect and to become more perfect is to change. Anonymous.
I’ve heard this before a few times, but I’d like to be with this quote and intuitively listen to the deeper meanings, as
I embark in the Coaching journey.
I’m quite enthused about the range of possibilities that I can travel with the Client and help them pursue their own dreams, solutions, action plans which deeply reside in them, by following CORE MIND Coaching model.