A Coaching Model Created by Sabia Denoyelle
(Life Coach, FRANCE)
In today’s world, with what our family, our education, and what the society implants us we become formatted and we lose our inner originality because we disconnect from our hearts. We forget how to listen to our inner voice, we forget how to hear that voice. We become so busy by building or trying to build the life that “others” have decided that it’s “the best” for us. So we come to a point where we are not able to recognize our true will, our true calling, our gifts. We disconnect from our hearts’ true desires. This model is to help us to reconnect our hearts with our minds, and reconnect our intentions with our willpower.
In this first step the client taps into his courage to take a clear look at himself in a bigger picture where he sees himself from the wide-angle lens of the coach. He sees the picture of his current situation/position. What’s happening now? Where is he in his life? Where does he want to and need to make changes? The client realizes his true needs, his desires and on what kind of support he needs and the direction he wants to go. What does he dream of?
What’s preventing him from reaching his dream? The client gets deeper into digging and starts to gain awareness about what blocks him from connecting to his resources, what prevents him from growing and evolving into a better version of himself, and what hinders him from upgrading to a next level. What is he scared of? The coach also sees more “who” the client is, and gets an awareness of the client’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
Noticing the Shifts
By shedding more light on the conditioning’s of the false self, limiting beliefs and the values that don’t serve the client anymore, the client gets more in touch with what he truly wants and what his heart is more aligned with. By contemplating on these, the client starts to let go of what doesn’t work, and so there is now space for new and sudden shifts in the client. As the perception starts to expand with the lens of the coach, the client starts to notice some shifts in his consciousness. In other words, a connection starts to establish between the client’s heart and his mind. He understands the difference between “have to” and “want to” goals.
In this step, by having these shifts in his consciousness the client starts to shred his old skin and he becomes open to new ideas, new ways of being, and he starts to nurture what truly lies inside his heart. At this stage he reinvents himself and starts to see with a whole new awareness what is truly meaningful for him.
Has he been in a similar situation before? How did he manage to turn it around and be successful? The client remembers his resources and gets reconnected with his inner strength. A personal change is only possible when we empower ourselves, otherwise only self-knowledge isn’t enough. By realizing that empowerment liberates us, the client knows now he is free to choose his direction. By empowering himself a whole new life opens up in front of him, different and new paths become visible, the ones he wasn’t able to perceive before…
At this point, the empowered client connects his intention with his willpower. He reconnects with the world around him. This connection also gives power to act, to give and to share his light with others. So now it’s time to establish a clear action plan towards his dreams. The coach supports the client on accountability.
Transformation occurs eventually with time, as the mind becomes clearer and as the heart becomes more accessible. The client’s heart and mind becomes aligned as he has the same intention in his heart and in his mind, both functioning in the same direction towards the same goal. The client simply becomes a better version of himself.