A Coaching Model Created by Peter Tavernise
(Leadership Coach, UNITED STATES)
Where Do you Want to Be?
Whether in our personal or professional lives, at times we have all felt stuck or lost, feeling like we are adrift in a small boat with no stars to navigate by and no wind to sail with. What we need at that point is to take time for personal exploration – so that we can map the territory, navigate, get some wind in our sails, and embark on a new heading with renewed meaning and purpose.
Providing a sounding board since the 3rd grade – for whatever reason friends have always sought to talk through their challenges with me. In my professional life, I have helped individuals gain clarity and become stronger leaders, building and scaling social impact solutions on a global basis.
My career experience and recent training have formalized those skillsets and provided me a wider range of tools and vocabulary with which to assist clients to reach their destinations. In my role as a Foundation leader, every few weeks I am contacted by and have conversations with people who are seeking to move towards more meaningful work, and asking how they can do that.
As well, twenty years of mindfulness practice; overcoming medical crisis; living in multiple countries, and serving for more than three decades in nonprofit and corporate professional work enables me to connect with and provide deep empathy and support to a wide range of people. Learning to not just survive but to thrive within the bounds of a health challenge has taught me much about the freedom that comes from constraints (those we choose, and those we must come to live with).
What I bring to the table: compassionate presence, empathy, decades of lived experience, faith in people, consistency, commitment, warmth, and humor.
Clients move from stasis and stagnation to vibrancy. Clients exiting my practice will have mapped their territory, and have taken a navigation heading, and are moving capably and confidently towards their chosen direction. Clients will move on from coaching because they are growing, hopeful, energetic, fulfilled, looking forward to each day full of meaning and purpose.
We all need to lead healthy, vibrant, meaningful and fulfilling lives – and our work should serve that. If not, something needs to change.
How can our work become a source of life-fulfillment? I say to clients: Let’s explore that question together.
Our professional work can be a source of meaning and fulfillment in our lives. It is not predestined that work should be unpleasant, something we must simply endure in order to pay the bills. Part of the fallacy of work/life balance is that our work should somehow be separated from our “real lives.”
Clients are fundamentally whole and complete as they are. Every one of us has innate wisdom just waiting to be tapped. Clients may feel momentarily stuck, lost or adrift, but ultimately with exploration they each can come to know what they need, where they want to go next, and to map the way to get there. My purpose is simply to hold space for each Client and to ask powerful questions that can help them discover what they already know.
Core Practices/Process Model
Clients are each lost, stuck, or adrift in their own way, or facing their own particular hurdles to overcome.
Clients working with me will engage with a process of discovery and exploration that leads to a declared vision and thence to committed action.
Clients begin by taking stock, answering questions like:
- What is my current situation?
- What do I want? Where do I want to be (instead of where I am now)?
- How can I best map the relevant landmarks from here to there?
- What is the best path to that destination?
- What steps do I need to take to get to each point along the path, and eventually to the destination that is my goal?
- What obstacles and opportunities may exist? What strategies or resources will help address those?
- What needs to happen first?
- Who and what can I rely on to support me in this journey? Who can I ask for help?
Clients use these questions to map their territory, and then navigate the route to their goals. They create a specific action plan to get to their destination.
Using the power of declared intention (Strozzi Institute, 2016), Clients will define their map and the route to their goal in vivid detail, commit to, and then get started in that new direction. If they wish, I can help them construct measures of progress towards their goals, with accountability for the steps they take to get there.
Clients will gain support from coaching to face and overcome their hurdles, and to create their own approaches regarding how to recover and learn from any setbacks along the way to their goals.
Clients may revise the map, the action steps, or the overall heading as needed based on how each step towards the goal may reveal new territory (options and/or hurdles).
Having reached their goals and having integrated their learning and achievements, clients may encounter new opportunities or hurdles, and we may repeat this process opening yet more vistas, creating a vision and committing to the movement towards the next destination.
Coaching Niche: Leadership and Transformation
My Niche Statement: I help mid- to late-career professionals who feel the connection between their work and fulfillment has gone off track, to define and pursue their right path.“Connecting you with your best future, full of meaning and purpose.”
I will work with leaders who are facing organizational or career-challenges or seeking to define their next steps. Successful people are not feeling fulfilled. Any leader who feels like things have gone off track with their career. Anyone who is lost, adrift, anxious, facing hurdles; who feel stuck; who is facing a major life-decision or life-event. This can include people who are:
- Feeling blocked or stuck in their work, creative, or personal life, or who may be dealing with burnout
- Weathering a period of intense transitions, whether career change, moving to a new location, or relationship changes
- Seeking to define and achieve goals that have seemed out of reach
What this model is not: youth coaching, targeted health coaching, entrepreneurship/ small business coaching
I provide a compassionate, listening space to help accomplished, disciplined and determined professionals to heal the disconnect between their current work and their sense of purpose and fulfillment, providing a nurturing and supportive environment for them to map and pursue the path to a more purpose-full life.
Issues and related Services leading to à Outcomes
Leadership &Transformational Coaching
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Issues you may be facing
Services and Approaches
Feeling stuck or blocked
Lack of clarity
Undefined or unachieved goals
Stress/ Anxiety/ Fear
Unhealthy habits or routines
Challenges managing your time
Seeking meaning and purpose
Artist’s or Writer’s Block
Managing competing demands
Frustration, “too much on my plate”
How best use your assets to address community needs
Coping with change/life & career transitions
Defining Goals / Goal Setting
Creating a plan
Effective time management
Making friends with fear and anxiety
Embracing change as renewal and growth
Defining meaningful engagement
Establishing habits of self-care
Finding and pursuing your passion
Emotional awareness/ emotional and social intelligence
Aikido philosophy (transforming situational energy to bring peace)
Writing as an exploration
Inspired philanthropy/ volunteerism
Outcomes can include:
- A new work/life approach, and a plan to pursue it
- Deeper self-awareness
- Balance and satisfaction
- Establishing healthy, nurturing, supportive habits and routines
- Resiliency; turning anxiety fear and stress into allies
- Defining and Achieving goals
- Greater compassion for self and others
- Recognizing boundlessness of options, and freedom in limitations
- Enhanced creativity and open channels of creative expression
- Embracing positive new directions
- Connecting with your best sources of Resonance – the principle of all energy transfer (Ginny Whitelaw)
- Hearing and honoring your inner voice
- Life satisfaction / clearly defined work and life purposes
- Personal or family philanthropic/social investment plan
- Linking to communities and individuals who can support you long term