A Coaching Model Created by Nancy Hiller
(Transitions Coach, UNITED STATES)
Several years ago I had the greatest epiphany of my life which was directly responsible for me deciding to go into the field of coaching. I had had a Life Coach that helped me tremendously prior to and during a divorce. While his coaching was invaluable, I still found something missing in that I was able to have awareness of my ‘patterns’, and could ‘obstain’ from situations that might cause me to repeat the pattern, but, really did not feel ‘healed’ when it came to the root cause of that pattern.
What I discovered was that awareness by itself was not enough for healing to take place. I needed to meet these uprooted ‘things’ that I became aware of… feelings of jealousy, anger, fear, etc. with love. Recognizing a pattern of behavior that did not serve me was not enough. I began coaching my clients along with myself in the ways of “loving the discovery” whatever it was. If I became frightened and / or thought something unkind I would congratulate myself on having the awareness and then kindly look to that place in my heart or my mind (sometimes in my stomach or other intuitively appropriate spot) and send it love. I would send myself the love with the intention to nurture that fearful part of me – I would encourage it to silently feel its feeling with not only non-judgement but ‘active kindness’ toward that part of me that was obviously not aware of its only wholeness and healing yet.
When I Practiced this Awareness with LOVE, I found that the HEALING began to come. The more I opened my heart to myself – and my clients reported the same! – especially to the really ‘ugly and shameful’ part, the more open, free, and Healed I definitely became.
The circular part of the visual is much like the repetitive line conveying that the A, always leads back to its own beginning as there really is no beginning and no end.. Practicing this Awareness and/with love leads to healing which leads to more awareness, more love, more healing, more awareness, etc.
