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Coaching Model: The Civility

2017/08/28

A Coaching Model Created by Martina Muttke
(Executive Coach, SWITZERLAND)

Supporting the journey to better leadership in executive coaching

Executive_Coaching_Model_Martina_Muttke_1.1Despite what we believe about the necessities of having certain skills as a leader, the reality shows that, “soft“ items dominate the expectations employees have for their leader:

  1. Demonstrate Integrity
  2. Show and Teach Responsibility
  3. Create Motivation and Empowerment
  4. Provide an environment of Safety and Trust

The behaviour of a leader needs to match the values of- CIVILITY

What is Civility?

Civility is claiming and caring for one’s identity, needs and beliefs without degrading someone else’s in the process

Civility is about more than just politeness, although politeness is a necessary first step. It is about disagreeing without disrespect, seeking common ground as a starting point for dialogue about differences, listening past one’s preconceptions, and teaching others to do the same.

Civility is the hard work of staying present even with those with whom we have deep-rooted and fierce disagreements.

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The Path to Coaching Civility

Step 1: Explore your awareness about the key values that express Civility

Do you pay attention? Do you acknowledge others? Do you listen? Are you inclusive? Do you accept differences? Do you accept and give praise? Do you respect others‘ time, space and opinions? Are you able to apologize? Are you truly assertive? Are you able to accept and give non-judgmental criticism? Do you care about yourself? Do you care about your environment, and other people?

Ask yourself how much of your current behaviour is in line with Civility!

Step 2: Learning Civility

Civility is the hard work of staying present even with those with whom we have deep-rooted and fierce disagreements 

  • Think about the impact of your words and actions on others first
  • Treat everybody with the respect that we expect them to treat ourselves
  • Apologize when we you are wrong
  • Disagree with intelligence, humor, and civil discourse
  • Realize when you judge or compare
  • Start responding to emotions that arise instead of simply reacting
  • Don’t let anger and emotion get in the way of listening to others.
  • Demonstrate and teach respect and empathy
  • Challenge people’s views but don’t attack the person
  • Be tolerant of people who are different from us
  • Praise and empower

Step 3: Transform yourself into a better leader with Civility

Civility pays. It enhances your influence and performance — and is positively associated with being perceived as a leader

Ask for feedback on your best behaviors. This technique, originated by researcher Laura Roberts, will help you see your most respectful self. Collect feedback from about 10 people (family, friends, coworkers). Ask each for positive examples of your best behaviour. When and how have they seen you treat people well? After compiling the feedback, organize and summarize. Then, look for patterns. When, how, with whom are you at your best? Use these insights to reinforce what you are doing well. Be mindful of all opportunities to be your best, civil self.

Step 3: Transform yourself into a better leader with Civility

Discover your shortcomings. Gather candid feedback from your colleagues and friends not only on what you’re doing well, but also on how you can improve.

Specifically, what are your shortcomings? Identify a couple of friends and trusted colleagues who have the best intentions for you and your organization.

Ask people from whom you will receive direct and honest feedback. Ask for their views about how you treat other people. What do you do well? What could you do better? Listen carefully.

Step 4: Transform yourself into a better leader with Civility

Live, transfer and teach Civility.

Leaders have an important role to play in creating a culture of civility. They need to role model expected leadership behaviours, and are accountable to ensure that civility expectations are being enforced within their organization

Create your declaration of civility by defining the common theme, provide and outline concrete behaviours

Give guidance on behaviour in “peaceful” times as well as times of conflict

Outline mechanisms to repair relationships and civil behaviour when relationships become strained

Executive_Coaching_Model_Martina_Muttke_1.1(*) Marini, Z. A., Polihronis, C., & Blackwell, W. (2010). Academic in/civility: Co-constructing the foundation for a civil learning community. Collected Essays on Learning and Teaching, 3, 89-93.

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