A Coaching Model Created by Lady Tinor
(Achievement Coach, CANADA)
The Dare to Dream Coaching Model was developed as part of the certification requirements with the International Coach Academy. It is based on my learning through the ICA coaching certification program combined with my own life experience, core values, and personal philosophy.
The great winged horse comes from Roman and Greek mythology and is known for the attributes and symbolic powers of improvements in fortune and wealth, as well as being a good omen for new opportunities.
Spiritually, Pegasus symbolizes living the life we were born to live, without restraints or fears of being judged – Pegasus invites you to close your eyes for just a moment and imagine the life that you feel you were born to live.
This beautiful winged horse is there to remind us that ultimately we were born to experience and express happiness and freedom. When we are living from the essence of which we truly are, our vibration soars and we feel as if anything is possible. We feel as if we can fly through the skies on the wings of love…just like Pegasus.
Many times in the last 20 years, I have heard comments about my ability to visualize my dreams, my courage, and persistence to see them through (at times despite extreme adversity), and my (sometimes extreme) dedication to fitness and overall wellness.
These traits, amongst others, are based on my personal core values; and the basis of my belief that awareness of your core values is fundamental to the pursuit of your dreams.
Your core values are the pillars that hold your dreams; they are what will keep you going when the going gets tough.
This brings me to another philosophy that I truly believe: We are born knowing what we are meant to do. Many (if not most) of us are diverted from our true life purpose for various reasons; and until we choose, or are able, to go back and honor this purpose – we seek fulfillment through our achievements.
Finally, this section would not be complete without a mention of my strong interest in experiential learning as a method of learning about oneself through experiences and reflections. I believe that through experiential learning, one can develop the self-trust and self-confidence necessary to believe that “when you dare to dream ~ anything is possible”
Your Story is your Credibility
Dare to Dream. This phrase has been part an important part of my life since 2001 when I first decided to leave a successful career in IT to pursue my dream to travel across Canada – a journey that would last almost four years. During this time, a website named “The Dare to Dream Journey” kept track of journal entries that documented my journey; and it was during those years that I came to realize that so many people are going through life feeling ‘incomplete’ and searching for meaning.
I was surprised at the number of people I met along the way who expressed their wish to live a more meaningful life and often appalled at how many had lost the ability to see and ‘dream’ beyond their current situation.
Make it Happen! This statement, which is the tag line of my business name, is the second most important component of my story. Daring to dream is only the first part of this journey; it is the ability to make things happen that really make the difference.
Over the years, I’ve come to realize that my ability to dream, to develop a clear vision, and to put together a roadmap to make it happen are all part of what gives credibility to my story and makes it authentic.
By the time I finally decided to settle down, I had discovered my purpose: Aspire to inspire and empower others to pursue their dreams and live their life to the fullest! It took many years for me to figure out the best approach to do this – and thus, while completing my ICA coaching certification, the Dare to Dream Coaching Model was born!
It is usually later in life, often between the ages of 40-65, that most people start to question what they can do to fill the unidentifiable void they feel deep in their soul. By this time, they have usually achieved a level of success in what they had initially identified as their goals; yet ‘something is still missing’.
It may be that part of what is missing is a feeling of overall wellness or simply a feeling of serenity with the decisions they have made so far in life; basically a feeling of contentment.
Unfortunately by this time most people have developed underlying beliefs that create doubts and fears which will often prevent them from moving forward with their dreams. Furthermore, their perception of their current situation may also cause them to feel ‘stuck’. A committed desire for change is needed for a person to find the courage to embark on a journey of personal growth, and to develop the self-trust and self-confidence necessary to remove the doubts and fears that are standing in the way of their dream – a dream based on their own core values and their life purpose.
(The topic of my Power Tools Fear vs Confidence will address this topic in greater detail.)
Dare to Dream that you can carve your life into a master piece inspired by your soul. Let your Soul be your muse. Start today and Make it Happen!
Goals & Intentions
- Identify what the client is struggling with
- Identify what are the initial obstacles?
- Identify priorities and core values
- Identify the ideal life in 3-5-10 years
- Identify commitment to change
- What are you struggling with?
- What would you like to changes?
- What is stopping yours from making these changes?
- What are your life priorities at this stage?
- In which areas would you like to improve?
- What are your core values?
- What would you like your life to look like in 3-5-10 years?
- What does it look like, feel like, sound like (using all senses)?
- What do you envision your life in 3-5-10 years from now if nothing changes
- What do you need to change to make this happen?
- How committed are you to make those changes?
Goals & Intentions
- Reconfirm the desired outcome
- Identify goals and objectives
- Identify milestones and timeframe
- Identify roadblocks
- Determine methods to measure progress and stay on track
- Agree on a method of accountability
- What is the desired outcome?
- What does it look like, feel like, smell like? (use all senses)
- What are the specific goals and objectives to achieve this outcome?
- What will be the milestones along the way? Timeframe
- How will you know when you have reached these milestones?
- What positive changes will you notice in yourself, in others
and in the world around you?
- What is your strategy for carrying out the required actions?
- What will you do if you get distracted?
- What can you do to ensure that you stay on track?
- What can you put in place to measure your progress?
- What support can you put in place to assist in reaching your goals?
- What can you do to remain accountable to meeting these target dates?
- Which milestones would you like to celebrate & how?
Goals & Intentions
- Identify fears and doubts
- Differentiate between true fears and unwarranted fears
- Identify and change Limited Beliefs
- Visualize the path
- What are you afraid of?
- What is stopping you?
- What is standing in your way?
- What are the benefits of holding on to these fears?
- What would you do if you were not afraid?
- What would be different if you could live without this fear
- What can you do to overcome this?
- What have you tried before? What worked?
- What are your options right now?
- What would you change about yourself right now if you could make this better?
- Using visualization exercises to see the changes and results the client is aiming for?
Goals & Intentions
- Identify and Reframe Perspectives
- Identify strengths& weaknesses
- Identify areas to build self-trust and self-confidence
- What is your perception of the current situation?
- Is this true? What makes you believe this is true?
- What other ways can you look at this?
- What is the value of keeping your current perception?
- What can you find to be grateful for your current situation?
- What would you change if you could?
- What is under your control?
- What can you learn from this situation?
- What would be the best / worst-case scenario?
- What would you do in the case of the best / worst-case scenario?
- What advice would you give your best friend about this situation?
- What strengths do you already have to overcome these obstacles?
Goals & Intentions
- Explore and discover what experience and learning will benefit the client based on
their focus and what they want to achieve
- Prepare client by coaching in advance of the experience.
- Provide powerful questioning, observations, and acknowledgment during experiential learning exercises
- Provide an opportunity for personal growth
- Develop courage through the decision to move through with experiential learning – trying something they haven’t tried before
- Develop self-trust by encouraging the client to become comfortable with uncertainty as while doing an exercise that is unknown to him/her
- Develop self-confidence by increasing their comfort zone around this new exercise/situation
- Encourage the client to provide self-observations and self-acknowledgments
- Debrief in a coaching session afterward and invite the client to describe the experience, develop a list of thoughts, ideas, awareness, feelings, and meaning
- What are you thinking about? What are you feeling right now? What are you observing?
- What new insight and awareness do you have now following this exercise?
- What have you learned about yourself? What can you do to apply this new learning as you move forward?
The Dare to Dream Coaching Model will include an Experiential Learning component intended to help the clients develop great self-trust and self-confidence. (A research paper on Coaching through Experiential Learning is part of my ICA course outcome.)
The experiential learning component is customized to benefit the clients based on their focus and what they want to achieve. To be successful, experiential learning needs to provide an opportunity for the client to extend beyond his/her comfort zone; followed by a coaching discussion that will provide the client with greater self-awareness. Exploration of core values, strengths, feelings, and emotions are intended to help the client gain a better self-understanding; and in turn increase self-trust in dealing with unknown situations. Furthermore, through the repetition of experiential learning exercises, the client will continue to develop self-awareness and self-confidence.
It is important that the client’s learning from these exercises be explored with the coach and that the client is encouraged to continue to apply this new learning in the future
Two components of experiential learning will be offered at the Dare to Dream Acres location, in British Columbia, Canada: Animal-Assisted Coaching (AAC)and nature-Assisted Coaching
Clients interested in these coaching sessions will be invited to come to the Dare to Dream location where one-on-one coaching sessions
and/or coaching retreats will be offered.
The Dare to Dream Model can be offered as a pure coaching method or as blended coaching if/when combined with the experiential learning component.
The name of the coaching model and the tagline strongly reflects my philosophy about life and how I hope to be able to fulfill my life purpose through coaching.
I am excited at the possibilities of incorporating experiential learning as part of a coaching modality and look forward to including options such as Animal Assisted Coaching (AAC) and Nature-Inspired Coaching as part of my practice.