International Coach Academy

Coach Training School

  • LANGUAGES
    • English
    • Chinese
    • Italian
  • COMMUNITY
    • Africa
    • Australia
    • Canada
    • Egypt
    • France
    • Germany
    • Greece
    • Hong Kong
    • India
    • Italy
    • Japan
    • Jordan
    • Lebanon
    • New Zealand
    • Singapore
    • Switzerland
    • Taiwan
    • Trinidad Tobago
    • UAE
    • UK
    • USA
  • Contact Us
  • OUR SCHOOL
    • Training Methodology
    • Coach Certification
    • Why Choose ICA?
    • Our Story
    • Our Team
    • Our Alumni
  • PROGRAMS
    • Become a Coach
    • Add Coach Skills
    • Advanced (ACP)
    • Professional (CPC)
    • Vocational (VCP)
    • Workplace (WCC)
    • Life Design
    • Bridging Pathways
    • Group Coach
  • STUDENT LIFE
    • Inside the Classroom
    • Study Schedule
    • Coaching Confidence
    • Your Niche and Model
    • Portfolio Creation
    • Unparallaled Support
  • COACH LIFE
    • ICA Coach Alumni
    • Get A Niche
      • Life Coaching
      • Health Wellness Coaching
      • Leadership Coaching
      • Business Coaching
    • Getting Clients
    • Coaching Demonstrations
    • Coaching Tips
    • Day in the Life of a Coach
    • Community Library
  • FLIPIT
    • A Framework for Change
    • Certified Group Coaching (CCE)
      • FlipIt Facilitation License
    • ICA Power Tools
      • Graduate Power Tools
  • BLOG
    • Graduation Yearbooks
    • Coach Portfolio
      • Power Tools
      • Resources
    • Articles
    • Podcasts
  • Join Login
You are here: Home » COACH PORTFOLIOS » Coaching Models » Coaching Model: Colored Cube

Coaching Model: Colored Cube

2015/03/20

A Coaching Model Created by Dalia El Seddik
(Life Coach, EGYPT)

Life coaching model Dalia El SeddikAlignment of values and way of life; is it the key to reach our reality, wholeness, effectiveness and eventually to be contented?

Can person live and bear to live without having this alignment in one of his life stages?

What would happen if he reaches this alignment? How would his life look like? How he would feel towards himself and society he lives in?

Introduction:

What is Value:

Value is a concept that describes the beliefs of an individual or culture. A set of values may be placed into the notion of a value system. Values are considered subjective and vary across people and cultures. Personal values evolve from circumstances with the external world and can change over time. They are implicitly related to choice; they guide decisions by allowing for an individual’s choices to be compared to each choice’s associated values. Even they are developed early in life may be resistant to change. They may be derived from those of particular groups or systems, such as culture, religion, and political party, however, personal values are not universal; one’s genes, family, nation and historical environment help determine one’s personal values. This is not to say that the value concepts themselves are not universal, merely that each individual possess a unique conception of them i.e. a personal knowledge of the appropriate values for their own genes, feelings and experience.[1]

For several reasons a person may not have such alignment which may lead him to fall in conflict between what he wants to do deep inside and what he does.

Client may with experience, observations, education, or else he went through in his life, have different values than his society agree on, whether his values or his society values which is right, it isn’t our role to judge.

Conflict between his values and what required from him to do whether to get job, promoted, enter certain community (brotherhood), to be well known, charming for girls or boys.

We don’t mean here with values a high moral ones (from our point of view), it means any values a person can have and circumstances makes this person behave differently than he wish or believe is right or feeling deep inside that there is something wrong in what he is doing. A person can fall in this conflict and don’t know reasons behind his unhappiness or frustration or can’t be socialized.

That is why I felt that colored cubs the finest demonstration of my idea. When we buy the colored cube it come each color aligned with its match, like babies when they born, then with time a lot of intervention affect and start to shape us either by keeping us aligned with the values we brought up on and believe in, or to find ourselves in conflict what’s deep inside and what required from us in order  to be accepted.

In some cases we know our values and aware of what is happening around us what forces are involved, and from my point of view it’s easier on the person as self-awareness is a very powerful key, he would know what and why he behave in such a way what combination he is going to follow to reach his goals.

With time passing a person may start to forget his values or bury it without knowing he is doing so, and may start feels yes I am behaving in such way but deep inside I feel something else, but don’t know what is it; which will lead him to frustrated life, which eventually will have a huge impact on his life, family, work, colleagues and all surround him.

We can call this values which are there deep inside underlying believes. Unconsciously think of something and behave consciously in another.

Model Summary:

Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik

1. Client clarify his goal

2. Check and explore this goal more deeply against his values and believes.

3. Several option can found,

A) Found match between values and goal just need to have action plan.

B) Not fully match, what makes him feel not motivated to take action, or feeling the enjoyment of fulfilling his goal.

A) Found Match between Values and Goal:

  • Client with coach put plan to reach checked goal
  • Consider detailed plan, for easier following and measuring achievement
  • Client and coach agree on way of measuring, as in some stages client can’t see changes, but actually a change is building up to be measured in another stage, that’s very important to be clarified to client in order not to feel frustrated.
  • Check how much of achievement have been done after agreeing with your client on following up frequency with him (weekly, monthly)
  • Check client satisfaction of his achievement, do they need to accelerate or slowdown in order to enjoy achievement process and accept the feeling of rewarded or prized.
  • Check with your client after accomplish his goals; satisfaction, celebration, acknowledgement of his accomplishment, whether what has achieved bring him close to his long or short term goal or during his achievement he found that the long term goal not what he want to achieve and changed his mind and a new goal appeared and clarified to him; which will make him feel whole, satisfactory and mean of life.

B) Found No Much Between Values and Goal:

  1. Client state his goal and what he want to achieve in his life,
  2. Test client goal against his value.
  3. Go deep with coach fully present to listen tentatively to what client is saying and not saying search for his underlying values he believes in, what stopping him from achieving his goals,
  4. Check with client what is more important his goal or values? What will give him happiness and satisfaction he need in his life.
  5. After clarifying and reaching balance between goal and values,
  6. Consider detailed plan, for easier following and measuring achievement
  7. Check how much of achievement have been done after agreeing with your client on following up frequency with him (weekly, monthly)
  8. Check client satisfaction of his achievement, do they need to accelerate or slowdown in order to enjoy achievement process and accept the feeling of rewarded or prized.
  9. Check with your client after accomplish his goals; satisfaction, celebration, acknowledgement of his accomplishment, whether what has achieved bring him close to his long or short term goal or during his achievement he found that the long term goal not what he want to achieve and changed his mind and a new goal appeared and clarified to him; which will make him feel whole, satisfactory and mean of life.

The main idea of this model is to reach the balance between values and goals, in order to live a life in its complete meaning to the client without any conflict within oneself.

We all consist of several elements, either we inherited biologically or gain from living in families, schools, societies, communities. At the end these elements have to be complementary to each other and form a whole unit, otherwise a person would find himself lost or in conflict don’t know what to decide which to follow.Here we talk about values we live with and the goals we set in our life. How we can reach our balance by having matched goals and values; in order to avoid trying to reach  goals not matching with our values,  Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik
Which would result to feel out of harmony, and distracted between values deep inside; and goals want to accomplish, which he thinks will give him higher value in the society or community or work he belongs to.  Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik

How to reach with client this balance:

Client starts by visualizing his goal and describe it in every details either physically and emotionally. What it means to him to reach such goal? How it will look like to reach his goal? What it feels to reach this goal, how important is his goal, how ready you are to reach your goal give rate on scale of 1-10 and 10 fully ready to do anything to reach this goal. Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik
In order to put action plan to reach any goal, is to know first what resources, data we already have or require to have in order to achieve this goal,Client starts states what resources he has one of this resources is his values,He start to clarify what he think is the good value a person should have to live a life of harmony and content,Check whether this values he already have or wishing to have? In reaching his goal is this values going be helpful or will be standing in his way? If it’s standing in client way; what’s more important his values to live with or to achieve his goals? What will make him reach his satisfaction and content of himself, goal or values? What does it means to have a balanced combination between both values and goals? What is a combination he may think would work for him? What it feels to live in such balanced statues?  Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik
Client starts mix and matches his goals against their values, to reach the perfect combination of both values and goal, in his point of view, to feel wholeness, complete, satisfied, and contented.Ask your client after experience knowing his values, whether his goal is matched with his values or not? What is more important for him? Do you feel this goal with bring him satisfaction and content? Does he wish to change his goal or still want the same goal?  Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik
Test what they reach against their feelings and what other forms or goal they might want to reach, in order they will be sure they are going on the right track, and testing every option they would like to have, to reach the complete, satisfied and contented form they are feeling easy in.  Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik
In the middle of the process, ask him to Visualize the end result, how he feels? What is the different between first and second visualization images, feelings? Which one does he feels in ease and one unit? Which one he will continue to follow in order to reach the feelings he satisfied with?Acknowledge and celebrating their effort in the middle of the process, to know that every effort they put in the process is a step forward to their goal and to encourage them to keep on moving in order to reach their visualized results they had.  Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik
Check with client what it feels to know his real values and believes? Did he feel the harmony between his goals, behavior, actions and values? What it feels to have alignment between goals, behavior, actions and values?Acknowledge his efforts during the process.Ask him did he observe any changes in himself? What ideas, goals are coming out of him? What can client call this feeling he is experiencing? What is the different between these ideas and first one?Acknowledge his creativity, elaborative and freely deep inside.Do you like to keep this harmony? What is it mean to keep feeling this harmony? What more benefit you will have if you maintain harmony between goals, behavior, actions and values? How can you maintain this harmony? What steps you are going to take to maintain this harmony? Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik
 Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik
Client and Coach celebrating client accomplish in reaching his goals, knowing his values, believe and the end the harmony between all and eventually harmony with his community.Which from this moment and forward; will know how to choose and reach his matched goal, to maintain gained harmony.  Life coaching model Dalia El Seddik

That’s the moment every coach is waiting; to hear “AHHHH” the relieve sound of client find his way of harmony, satisfaction and content J and don’t need him (coach) anymore to keep fulfilling his harmony.

After reaching this “AHHHH” and making sure he reaches his feeling of fulfillment between his goals and values to combine this feeling with reality and benefit he will find reaching this harmony. Client start to outline his action plan, then detailed steps as mentioned before to agree on measurement s of accomplishment and frequency of checking progress. I think in this step of planning will be easy because client already knew his values and goals, and his vision is now clear and focused on what he really want, then plan will just flew out of him and will take great steps in reality.

[1] http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Definition_Personal_Values.html

Related Posts

  • Research Paper: Unlock the Hero Inside YOU
  • Power Tool: Visible vs. Invisible Heroes
  • Coaching Case Study: Create a Space of ConfidenceCoaching Case Study: Create a Space of Confidence
  • Coaching Model: DREAMCoaching Model: DREAM
  • Research Paper: Primary vs. Secondary ChallengeResearch Paper: Primary vs. Secondary Challenge
  • Power Tool: Hearing vs. ListeningPower Tool: Hearing vs. Listening

Filed Under: Coaching Models Tagged With: coach egypt, dalia el seddik, life coach

International Coach Academy

Categories

International Office

PO Box 3190 Mentone East,
Melbourne AUSTRALIA, 3194

ABN: 83 094 039 577

Contact Us Online

Ask Us A Question

Click HERE

Terms

Terms and condition
Privacy Policy

Copyright © 2021 · International Coach Academy ·

This website uses cookies to improve your experience. We'll assume you're ok with this, but you can opt-out if you wish. Cookie settingsACCEPT
Privacy & Cookies Policy

Privacy Overview

This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these cookies, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may have an effect on your browsing experience.
Necessary
Always Enabled

Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of the website. These cookies do not store any personal information.

Non-necessary

Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website.

SAVE & ACCEPT