A Coaching Model Created by Beng Lai Tan
(Business Coach, SINGAPORE)
Coaching Makes the Difference!
The root of success in everything, from academics to business to leadership to personal relationships and everything else is thinking – whether it’s thinking disguised as intuition or as good values or as decision making or problem solving or creativity, it’ all thinking.
- Do you face mental block and hinder your thinking?
- Why we face the mental block?
Mental block could be due to the following reason:
- Underlying belief
- Past Experience
- Self-Judgmental
- Lack of confidence
- Lack of awareness
- Values and Life Purpose
- Fear
- Etc…..
What is the surprise is that Coaching makes the Difference for thinking more clearly. The other surprise is that Quintessential Presence is the methods of effective thinking can be described, taught and learned. They are not inborn gifts of a special few. All of us can learn them and use them. This coaching model offers thought-provoking ways to provoke thought. These strategies will inspire people in all walks of life to become more successful.
I know quite certainly that I myself have no special talent. Curiosity, obsession and dogged endurance, combined with self-criticism, have brought me to my ideas.– Albert Einstein
No leaps are involved – a few basic strategies of thought can lead to effective learning, understanding, and innovation. More importantly, you yourself can master and apply those strategies.
You can choose to become more successful by adopting five learnable habits which quintessential presence coaching can offer.
Quintessential Presence Coaching Model:
Earth
Understand Deeply:
First understand simple ideas deeply. Clear the clutter and identify what is really important. Be honest about what you know and don’t know. Then see what’s missing, identify the gaps and fill them in. Let go of bias, prejudice, and underlying belief. Understanding is the foundation for success. You have to ground to Earth and to be realistic.
Fire
Learning:
Explore unforeseen opportunities and holes in your understanding. They also show you which way to turn next, and they ignite your imagination. Keep your Fire on for the Infinite Possibilities!
Air
Questioning:
Constantly create question to clarify and extend your understanding. What is the real question? Working on wrong question can waste a lifetime. Ideas are in the Air – the right questions will bring them out and help you see connection that otherwise would have been invisible.
Water
Flow:
Looks back to see where ideas came from and then look ahead to discover where those ideas may lead. A new idea is a beginning, not an end. Ideas are rare – milk them. Following the consequences of small ideas can result in big payoffs. Open ones mind to allow ideas flow like Water.
Embracing the four basic elements for effective coaching, and we devised an easy way to remember them. You only need to recall the elements that were once believe to be the essential parts of all nature and matter. Those elements, which predated Socrates and influenced Renaissance culture and thought are Earth, Fire, Air, and Water. So to help trigger your memory and enable you to apply these techniques, we associate each element with one of our strategies for effective thinking, learning, and creating.
Quintessence
Change:
By mastering the four elements, you can change the way you Coach. You can always improve, grow, and extract more out of your knowledge, yourself and the way you live your life. Change is the universal constant that allows you to get the most of living and learning.
Coaching application:
Coaching on Quintessential Presence by embracing the 4 elements allow the coach to connect the client to the presence. Active Listening to the client allow us to identify the unforeseen opportunities and learn the client presence moment. This coaching model needs much practice to achieve perfection. A model is only a structure without power. I will use this model for my Coaching practice to perfect it. Embrace a trusting space to understand (EARTH), learning (FIRE), questioning (AIR), flow (WATER) and change (QUINTESSENCE).