A Coaching Model Created by Agnes Dr. Darida
(Life Coach, UNITED STATES)
- Balance is one of my core value
- When I am balanced, I am in harmony with myself, my life and the people around me. I am structured, organized and effective, I take pleasure in my life.
- Balance means to me allocating my time and energy for the things that are important to me and take good care of myself.
- Balance is something that I need to keep in the back of mind and work on every day, otherwise I just lose it.
- I can measure how balanced I am when I do yoga. If I’m imbalanced, if I don’t focus, if I’m absorbed in my thoughts, I simply fall out of the pose.
BALANCE for me as a Coach
Balance in coaching means to me finding the right proportion between:
- listening and speaking
- supporting and challenging my clients
- understanding them and helping them move forward.
There has to be a balance between
- coaching people and promoting my business
- working with clients and working on myself
- learning new things and using those learnings.
Balance may be different for each of us and it may change from time to time. We have to find our own balance over and over again.
BALANCE for my Young Athlete Clients
When I work with young athletes on their mental preparation for tournaments, we create strategies to find their own balance between:
- studies, sport and private life
- working hard and relaxing
- being disciplined & focused on their goals and having fun
- fighting until the last moment, not giving up and letting go
- being motivated and having a calm mind.
We talk about what they can do to find pleasure and avoid burnout.
- What do you like doing when you have no obligations?
- What would you like to have more of?
- What can you do to relax and feel less stressed?
- How much time a week can you allocate for having fun?
BALANCE for my Female Clients
When I work with my adult female clients on relationship, work-life balance, self-confidence or parenting issues, I encourage them to find their own balance between family, work, all their other roles, and time for themselves.
I talk with them about what makes them feel alive and passionate, what they can do to take good care of themselves and feel better in their own skin. Some examples:
- When do you feel balanced?
- What would you love doing if you had a few extra hours a week for yourself?
- What did you like doing in your free time when you were a child or before having kids/starting your career?
- How can you find some time for yourself?
- Which tasks could you delegate for someone else?
BALANCE BEAM: the symbol of my coaching model
- A balance beam has to be stable through its strong legs. So do we, too. We need to work on strengthening the foundations of our personality: having a good amount of self-awareness, self-esteem and self-confidence, emotional intelligence, supportive beliefs. Accepting, respecting and loving ourselves, caring for ourselves, treating us as our own best friend. Because if we feel good about ourselves, we can give much more to our loved ones and the world.
- To perform well on the balance beam, we need to practice and take continuous action. Just like in our
- We have to be alert and mindful all the time, because if we get off balance, we might fall.
- But: in case we fall, we can use this new learning, climb back and start again.
BALANCE as an acronym
Balance describes the structure of my coaching sessions:
Look at the situation
Alternatives and Actions
- How are you today?
- What actions have you taken since our last session?
- What would you like to talk about today?
- Why is it important to you?
- What would you like to reach until the end of the session?
- How can the coaching session best support you today?
- How will you know that you reached your goal?
- How can you measure success?
LOOK AT THE SITUATION
- Where are you now vs where you want to be?
- What would you like to change?
- What is missing?
- What would your ideal outcome look like?
- What would happen if nothing changed?
- What is positive/good/the best aspect of this situation?
- How can you put your point of view in a different perspective?
ALTERNATIVES & ACTIONS
- What do you want to do?
- What are the key things you need to do?
- What possible options/ solutions do you see?
- Which seem the most effective /realistic/ appealing to you?
- Who do you want to be in the situation? How do you need to think, feel, act differently?
- What would you advise to a friend in a similar situation?
- What can you do to feel better?
- What do you need to do to be in balance?
- How can you take good care of yourself in this situation?
- What will your first step be? When?
- What else will you do? When?
- What can you do today/ the next week/ until our next session?
- What resources do you have and what else do you need?
- What structures will you put in place?
- What will your new thoughts/ behavior look like?
- What choices do you need to make?
- What/who do you need to say no to? Why?
- What might get in the way? What might hold you back?
- How committed do you feel? How would you rate it on a scale between 1-10?
- What is missing? What do you need more of? What would 100% commitment look like?
- What can you do to keep your level of commitment?
- What can you do to not let your commitment drop?
- What are your main concerns?
- How can you make yourself accountable?
- How can you support yourself and who else can you get support from? How can I best support you after the session?
- Where are we now compared to the goal of the session?
- What are your key learnings and new insights?
- What did you learn about yourself/ your situation?
- How are you feeling about yourself and the situation?
- What has changed?
- What can you be grateful for?
LET’S KEEP OUR BALANCE!
Now think about this:
- HOW CAN YOU FIND YOUR OWN BALANCE as a coach and in your private life?
- What do you need to do for that?
I wish us all to keep our balance and not fall off the balance beam! Or in case we fall, climb back again.