Let’s face it. The first people you are likely to coach may be your willing friends and family who want to support you as you venture into this profession. While this may prove challenging – to let go of your agenda for a loved one, to resist giving advice, or direction and to release judgment and trust the wisdom of your “client” – there is no better way to practice these very competencies. If you can be fully present and objective with someone you know and love, imagine how much easier it will be to do this with someone you just met?
Some may ask, “But is it ethical to coach a friend or family member?” According to the International Coach Federation it is as long as you explain in advance how your role as a coach is different than your role as a friend or family member and you are conscious of any conflict or potential conflict of interest, openly disclose any such conflict and offer to remove yourself if a conflict arises.
Aside from the ethical considerations, there are some practical questions to ask yourself when taking on a friend or family member as a client:
Keep in mind that our friendships and family relationships are very important to us. Take time to consider what you are risking if you coach friends or family. Perhaps write down your personal guidelines and ethics for such clients to include:
You’ll want to be clear that coaching is more than a friendly chat. It is a creative partnership, focusing on designing and implementing specific, meaningful changes in a personal or professional life.
This of course requires a heighten level of self awareness and reflection on your part. You must be rigorously honest about your intentions in the coaching and what obstacles or challenges could prohibit your best coaching. And then do the right thing by you and your client.