With Merci Miglino, PCC
Many of us had the old adage ‘count your blessings’ thrown at us when we were too young to truly appreciate its wisdom.
But research shows that daily gratitude exercises do indeed result in higher reported levels of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, optimism and energy.
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You may have keep or have kept a gratitude journal, or have the habit of calling to mind what you are thankful for as you fall asleep each night.
But if you are still not where you want to be in your life, career, or relationships you can take advantage of a couple of great exercise coaches use to get their clients unstuck.
First, write down some event this past year where things went wrong. Then write down all the lessons that they learnt from the experience. This activity can help you identify things you can be grateful for as well as seek out opportunities to be grateful in the future even when you are going through challenges.
In the event you have experienced a hurt from another person, the emotion of the hurt makes us forget any positives about that person and we cease to even see their good points. If this is the case, take a piece of paper and write the other person’s name on the top.
Write the hurt in the middle of the page and put a circle around it. Then write down all the things the other person may have done to be kind or helpful.
We’re not suggesting you gloss over unacceptable behavior or open yourself up to further hurtful incidents.
Rather, to put hurts in context. By doing so, we grow the amount of the things that we feel grateful for and help salvage positive experiences to reflect on.
Of course you can dust off that old gratitude journal and get started again. It’s never to late to be grateful.