Research Paper By Nisreen Sadek
(Youth Coaching, EGYPT)
A “Welcome to my World” Note
The world has shrunk to become a tiny little place, given all the technology and the booming world of social media that has made distances shorter. Today getting in touch with people is simple and quick, which draws them together virtually, but they are pulled apart physically. I have to say I have learnt so much from the coaching experience, it is indeed a path less travelled and taking that path enlightened me to keep moving forward and working on bringing people together as human beings, face-to-face, or even have one-on-one conversations.
To do that I believe a coach should have high social quotient as well as high emotional quotient to achieve healthier results with their clients. And this is what my paper discusses, so please sit back, relax, grab a hot drink as I welcome you to my world…….
What I learnt as a Client
As a client it was easy to talk to a complete stranger, knowing you are not being judged. I learnt to visualize my goals, and commit to follow them through so I’d be able to report back to my coach. I was nervous at first but my first coach Mic, was extremely lenient with me and was able to oversee my feelings over the phone. My second coach Stephanie was very patient and listened very carefully making sure she gives me the space to think about what I say and if I want to add anything, that short period of silence taught me to deeply think about the words coming out of my mouth. My belief is that all these learning are because of the intelligence my coaches had; be them emotionally intelligent or socially intelligent.
What I learnt as a Coach
As a coach, the challenge is exciting. When you are on the other side of the frontier it’s a different story. Being a coach taught me to be patient with clients, especially with those who have difficulty expressing themselves with a different language from their mother tongue. I learnt to listen actively and used social and emotional intelligence to maneuver around the state the client is in; so that I could coach them in the correct direction. My tolerance has increased and has been positively driven towards understanding the cultural and language differences in addition to the different belief systems that every client has.
What is Social Intelligence (SQ)?
Social and Emotional Intelligence is basically understanding yourself and others, and using this awareness to manage your behavior and response to challenging situations as well as relationships with others. My belief is that our people skills matter more than just our technical skills. Therefore, coaches should consider SQ one of the major pillars in coaching.