Research Paper By Kimberly Swanson
(Life Coach, UNITED STATES)
How Should Influences Our Lives and Manifests in Coaching
No matter the topic or issue raised during a coaching session, the idea of should is often present.
Whether it is inner dialogue, or other’s placing their shoulds onto us, the word can have a powerful impact on our lives. When misaligned with your values and beliefs, the impact can be devastating.
Why it shows up in coaching?
Should takes away choices and can leave us feeling stuck.
Many times it is this stuck-ness that leads people to coaching.
With its focus on the present and future, coaching is uniquely positioned to shift the power of should.
It is also inside the coaching partnership that we can vocalize the internal shoulds we have been telling ourselves, often times for years.
The shoulds we place upon ourselves are deeply rooted in our underlying beliefs.
There are judgements and expectations tied to every use of should.
We allow these shoulds to disempower us; giving in to the harmful and negative feelings. These feelings impact every area of our lives and can be a catalyst for seeking a coach.