Research Paper By Inas Ghanem
(Life coach, EGYPT)
This research paper aims at building parents‘ awareness regarding the capacity and resourcefulness of their kids that nictitates mothers and fathers to coach them and avoid the instruction attitude as a lifelong trend.
By the end of the paper, one will be able to acknowledge that parents need to coach their kids throughout their lives, it is not an option. A guide for this coaching approach will be presented.
Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege, than the raising of the next generation. Everett Koop
Parenting is undoubtedly the most rewarding and challenging adventure in a one‘s life. It‘s not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. Parenting is one of the most fulfilling feelings in many people‘s life and they compromise many of their career opportunities to give their kids what they perceive as happiness, joy and love. Somehow, parenting our children is the most responsible thing most of us ever do, yet we are doomed to experiment every day of our kids‘ life, through trial and error, in search of the best parenting formula. Parenting has been going on since the beginning of humanity, but many parents still feel they must reinvent the wheel over and over again and count on some mysterious instincts they are supposed to have.  Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, financial, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the aspects of raising a child. Parenting is a long-term investment. From talking and reading to infants to making values clear, parents exert enormous influence over their children’s development. They are, however, not the only influences, especially after children enter school. It’s especially important that parents give children a good start, but it’s also important for parents to recognize that kids come into the world with their own temperaments, and it is the parents’ job to provide an interface with the world that eventually prepares a child for complete independence. In a rapidly changing world parenting seems subject to fads and changing styles, but the needs of child development as delineated by science remain relatively stable. 
In his old age Mentor was a friend of Odysseus who placed Mentor and Odysseus’ foster-brother Eumaeus in charge of his son Telemachus, and of Odysseus’ palace, when Odysseus left for the Trojan War. [ICA modules ]
A mentor is someone who teaches or gives help and advice to a less experienced and often younger person. The mentor is usually older and more experienced than the person being mentored. The mentor bestows their knowledge and wisdom onto the student. The student looks up to the mentor and seeks guidance and advice from the mentor. [ICA modules]
The International Coach Federation defines coaching as; ―Professional coaches provide an on-going partnership designed to help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve their performances and enhance the quality of their lives.
Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual client needs. They seek to elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful. The coach‘s job is to provide support to enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has.
Coaching involves dialogue between a coach and a client with the aim of helping the client obtain a fulfilling life. This is achieved by helping the client establish what is important to them and by clarifying their values. With the client‘s input the coach co-creates value based goals and a plan to achieve them. Through collaboration, the coach supports the client to achieve these goals. [ICA modules]
Parents as Role Models
I can‟t tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it myself. Joyce Maynard
Parents serve as role models not only through direct interactions with their children, but through the examples they set with their attitude and behaviour within the family and in the outside world. By addressing their concerns, sharing their lives, and maintaining a constructive perspective, parents can contribute to their children’s personal growth and development.
My father didn‟t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it. Clarence Budinton Kelland
Parents as Mentors
In families, children rely upon their parents for the development of their character, values, sense of purpose and right and wrong — hence the expression, “As right as Mom and apple pie.” Kids, being mentored by their parents, would identify their purpose in life, for example, “To be the best I can be, to help others and leave the world a better place.” Or ―Acceptance to top colleges became the goal, with academic achievement.
Behind every productive life, there is mentorship. Parents have been given that gift. They need to use it wisely.