Research Paper By Iani Bacula
(Life/Transformational Coach, ROMANIA)
As a well spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well lived brings happy death – Leonardo da Vinci
Death is an uncomfortable topic. When it comes to discussing our mortality, we always find ways to change the subject. Discussing it is like going through the back alleys of our minds; it’s a scary place where our fears await like muggers seeking their next victim. It is normal to fear death but we should not let the fear of death prevent us from discussing a normal stage of life. The fear of dying takes control of us because we think that we are powerless in front of death. It is possible not to be totally powerless in front of death and to gain control of that moment. It starts with a conversation. Talking about death helps us to focus on living each day to the fullest. Acceptance alone is not enough though; we need more. We need a spiritual relationship with death. Why? Because death is humanity’s true connection; it’s the true unifier.
There are the “where do you see yourself in 10 – 20 years” types of questions that take us only so far and so deep. They take us decades by decades but they never take into account the end. They never take into account the time of death. To go deeper, we have to go all the way to the end. Death shouldn’t be a taboo subject; it should be discussed more as we will all face it one time or another. By discussing it, we can get to the core of our existence. By taming our fear for death we can make death a friend and also make a good death possible.
Death is a normal part of life
The normal and physiological stages of life for human beings are: Birth, infancy, childhood, adolescence, adulthood, old age and death. Every living organism has a life cycle. Even the sun has a life cycle and it too will eventually go out. Although this is a well-known fact, in today’s world, there is a soaring anti-aging industry launching thousands of products promising eternal youth, or, at the very least, a postponement of our natural progression into old age. The aging process is treated like a disease for which there isn’t any cure. It is important to accept and embrace each stage of life we are currently in, with every benefit and obstacle it may bring us.
Figure 1: The stages of life. Birth, infancy, childhood, adolescence, adulthood, old age and death. (From: www.study.com)
For when it comes to death, Eckhart Tolle in his book, A New Earth says:
For many people, death is nothing more than an abstract concept, in a way that people don’t have the slightest idea about what happens to the human form when it is close to disintegration. The majority of disabled and old people are isolated or in retirement homes. In funeral homes, makeup is applied to the deceased’s faces. You are only permitted to see a cosmeticized version of death.1