The objective of this article is to connect how Self-Defeating Behaviors, with an emphasis on Interpersonal Relationships, can be corrected through the understanding of what are both; Self-Defeating Behavior and Emotional Intelligence, and what makes up their framework, functions and what are possible outcomes. This was not created as a absolute to any of the previous mentioned, but as a loose writing that should be used to allow the reader to adapt ideas, opinions and/or tools of their own; incorporating them into their personal and/or professional life.
Healthy Interpersonal relationships are pivotal to living a happy fulfilled life, no matter who you are. This is where Emotional Intelligence (EI) comes in, Emotional Intelligence is a relatively new human realization and is still evolving in what defines its entirety. It quickly became apparent the importance of how Emotional Intelligence plays in ones personal and professional fulfillment. On the polar end is Self-Defeating Behaviors, like Emotional Intelligence, every human possess these. Self-Defeating Behaviors run amuck under-the-surface of ones life, keeping one from reaching their peak potential, possibly even enlightenment. Emotional Intelligence can be increased in an individual and Self-Defeating Behaviors can be replaced in an individual, the degree to which this happens is dependent on ones knowledge, awareness and ones will.
Want to improve your everyday life? If most people were asked that question a majority response would be, “Of course! Who doesn’t?”. What If you were asked the follow up question, “What’s stopping you?”. And that’s when a new mask is unveiled; it’s one of victimization. Some peoples brows will furrow, their voices will drop in tone, their speech will slow, and their head will rhythmically dance side-to-side in sync with the first syllable of the same old song that they’ve been singing for too long, “My so and so boss doesn’t…and is keeping me from…!”, “My spouse needs to…because I’m…!”, “There’s never enough…I need more of…!”, “Once the blank blank blank…I can finally…“I have to do…so I can then…!”, or possibly they might answer with a “I’m not sure? I never put much thought into it!”. It’s easier to put the blame on someone or something else, or just brush the real issue aside then it is to confront the truth, because the truth is: You are responsible to improve your everyday life, no matter what your situation is, not someone else! You are responsible for your personal happiness, no matter what your situation is, not someone else! You have the power to create an amazing life, so stop Self-Defeating Behaviors for once and for all, get out of your own way, allow your authentic self to grow, to be seen, only then you will unveil all your true beauty – your uniqueness! You read that right, read it again… and once more just to give it a better chance to imprint on your cerebral cortex, better yet, write it down so you can read it every day. Seriously, start living a better life today, it beings with you, not with anyone else. No more excuses! So stop the Self- Defeating Behaviors, increase your Emotional Intelligence, make a promise and commit to yourself that you will search for your unique true authentic self everyday, until your last day.