A Coaching Power Tool created by Sybelle Gielisse
(Executive Coaching, NETHERLANDS)
We are born without any judgments, opinions or other beliefs. As a child you are open, you have a big fantasy, everything is possible, no hurdles to take, you are looking with an open mind to the world asking all kind of questions just to understand. Children are
active builders of knowledge-little scientists who are constantly creating and testing their own theories of the world
Children all just follow in this process their intuition. No fear to look foolish. Intuition helps alert kids to danger, provides guidance in decision making and helps in problem solving, enabling youngsters to jump more quickly to a solution.
What a difference with who we are now; everything we do, the way we look to the world is based on our experiences, our beliefs and the things we learned by others. These experiences, the things we learned when we were raised, are all translated in judgements, in opinios, in our current behavior, in our beliefs. We wear colored glasses and the problem is that we sometime don’t know that we are wearing these colored glasses…..
We even think that everything we see from these glasses is all “true”. This is the moment that the Underlying Beliefs are alive and kicking!
In this complex world we sometimes don’t know anymore what is leading us; our (Underlying) Beliefs or our intuition. In some cases we have even lost our intuition. And we just don’t realise. In the complex world of today we follow our beliefs, we are misled by our Underlying Beliefs and before we know we are living a life that is not the life you really want to live. We ignore our intuition (or we just lose it), we deceive ourselves, and we decide (all or not unconciously) to deny ourselves the right to a great life, our own life.
How great would it be if we could stand in your Authentically Powerfull Personal Presence (Alan Seale)? Just by following your intuition. Doing our thing, connected with our values. How simple would your life be? Above all how wonderful (and successful) would your life be?
So the central question here is:
Being blocked and frustrated by your (negative) Underlying Beliefs or Live a fulfilling life by following your intuition?
What is an Underlying Belief?
According to the Oxford Dictionary a belief is:
an acceptance that something exists or is true, especially one without proof.
Wikipedia describes a belief as
So a belief is an assumed thruth. We create beliefs to anchor our understanding of our world. We might belief something based on a fact, an opinion or an assumption. As Larry Harvey says “Beliefs are thought at rest”. When we belief something to be true we will rarely question or think about the validity of that belief.
Man is made by his belief, as he believes, so he is,
Johann Wolfgang v. Goethe
We form our beliefs from a very early age. These beliefs are based on our environment; what we were told, what we heard as well as what we observed and experienced. Our beliefs are also the conclusions we draw from these experienced. We form beliefs about ourself, about others and the world around us. People hang onto their beliefs even if they are limiting or fly in the face of evidence to the contrary.
Why are we creating a whole belief system around us? There are two main reasons why we are doing this. First of all it is for safety reasons. Human beings want to feel safe. So we create a belief system, a system that guides you in your everyday functioning. To be able to function.
Secondly it is a time issue. We act based on our experiences, on the knowledge we gathered in the past which are translated in beliefs so that we can act fast and naturally. Without thinking, discussing with ourself, exploring the options or other time consuming thoughts.
As already written most of our beliefs lay down below the surface; we can’t see them, but they are strong and powerful. Some Underlying Beliefs sit below the surface just like an iceberg. They are core and strength of who you are. They are you. But you are not even aware that these are Underlying Beliefs. Or in other words; You just act on these Underlying Beliefs and in this case you are not aware of that, you don’t know if these are true and if negative formulated they can stand in your way and blocking you!
- I am not good enough. I am not worth it.
- I can’t do this!
- I have to be perfect and so on….
We talk about negative Underlying Beliefs if these beliefs continually sabotage our attempt to create a truly fullfilling life. That can lead that you don’t achieve one of your targets in life because you are more committed to one of your Underlying Beliefs. You just try and try and you won’t succeed. Very frustrated.
Summarized we can say that an Underlying Belief is just a thought we think is true, it is based on our experiences, sometimes we are not aware of them and in the worse case they are blocking you from living your fullfilling life because they have a negative impact!
What is intuition?
According to the Oxford Dictionary intuition is
the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.
We shall allow our intuition to guide us. A thing that one knows or considers likely from instinctive feeling rather than conscious reasoning.
Hans Welling determined even 11 meanings of intuiton:
I would like to see intuition as a process of feeling. The input to this process is mostly provided by knowledge and expericences, primarily acquired by associative learning, and stored in the LT memory. It is processed automatically and without conscious awareness. The output is a knowing, a first impression, (gut )feeling, a sense which can be used for an action (decision, or behavior or another action).
The positive thing of intuition is that it is free of fear and it is connected with our inner self. It is always true! And that makes it so worthwhile.
To be able to use our intuition we have to be aware of ourself. Self-awareness is the key to intuition. By being self aware we know what is important to us (values), we know our
beliefs but also our negative Underlying Beliefs, we know our mind, our spirit, our body, we know what is blocking you, our fears, we recognise our patterns, our understanding how we think, what we want in life (desires), what our strenghts are and so on. Based on these insights we can open us for intuition and just trust our feelings/intuition.
Self application to discover your Underling Beliefs
How can we recognize our Underlying Beliefs even if we are not aware of them? Below you will find some ways to recognize Underlying Beliefs:
- We don’t achieve our goals, how hard we try,
- we are frustrated because something doesn’t work in the way you would like,
- there is something preventing you from getting what you want,
- you are using negative language that doesn’t support the belief of being positive
- can’t do this, I am not worth it, I have to..),
- it can be your gut feeling who is protesting against these beliefs, you may feel fear
- that is preventing you from moving forward or changing things.