Power Tool: Say out loud vs. Put on hold

 A Coaching Power Tool Created by Olga Bassai
(Life and Career Coach, INDIA)

Everything becomes a little different as soon as it is spoken out loud. Hermann Hesse

K. is thinker, so her inclination is to internalize in order to reflect. She is constantly thinking about her future, but sharing her thoughts out loud is scary. Often she allows her thoughts to run wild, resulting in a fear to share them outwardly and believing that she should hold these emotions in.

She does not allow herself to acknowledge her needs out loud, and she usually chooses the easiest way – to put them on hold. But since the last few months her thoughts never affected her as much or as often as they do now.

Too many of us are like K., we want to be safe by putting on hold our emotions instead of allow ourselves to be seen and heard by saying it out loud.

Be safe by putting ON HOLD

Why it’s so scary?

As we are grow, we become chastised for letting our emotions show – we listen to the opinions of respected elders, and form beliefs that are driven by fear. We protect our pure and noble selves out of fear.

We live in small spaces, interact with a variety of different personalities, deal with injustice, face daily trials, it’s only natural that we get angry, fearful, jealous, guilty and tearful. But instead of listening for the messages that are leading us to our true selves, we stick our heads in the sand, suppress the words, fight back the tears, and repress the feelings that need to be released.