Coach’s Self-Reflection
- In my role as a Coach, in which situations I feel most comfortable and confident? In which situations I feel least comfortable and confident?
- What are my main fears in my coaching practice and relationships? What messages are they sending me?
- What are my stumbling blocks? Where am I stuck? What am I fearing? What am I avoiding?
- In my role as a Coach, in which situations I feel most courageous? In which situations I feel least courageous? In which situations I should take more risks?
- In which situations or aspects I need to be more assertive and courageous with my Clients? What changes in my behavior I must make?
- What are the positive aspects of fear? How can I use the emotion and feelings of fear in a more productive matter?
- What are the harmful aspects of fear? How can I prevent or minimize them?
Coach’s Self-Application
How can the Coach “be strong and be brave” in his coaching role? By continuous incremental improvement of his effectiveness. This is done through continuous learning from our experience, from our successes and failures. The best tool we have is “After-Action Review” also called “Lessons Learned” or “Debriefing”. AAR is a learning process. The goal is to improve performance. It is not a critique. (*8)
After each and every coaching conversation session, the Coach will reflect and answer in writing the following four questions and their sub-questions
1. What was the Plan?
What was intended? What was expected to happen? What were my assumptions?
2. What was the Reality?
What actually happened? Who did what? Who said or asked what? What were the results?
3. What were the Positive Outcomes?
What went well, and why? How can we keep doing that well?
4. What Needs to be Improved?
What needs to be improved? How can we improve it? Why/what would we change? What was learnt? What will be done differently next time?
Client’s Application Activities:
The objective of the activities described below is to support the Client to “be strong and be brave”: help him build his self-confidence; do his self-awareness reflection; acknowledge his achievements, efforts, and strengths; understand his fears and overcome them; encourage the Client to establish challenging and inspiring goals related with his values.
Self-Confidence Self-Assessment
On a 1-10 scale how do you see yourself regarding your Self-Confidence in each of the following three areas?
- Confidence in your competence – your beliefs about your capacity to achieve, solve problems and think for yourself.
- Confidence in your self-worth – the value you place on yourself; how comfortable you are being you and the extent to which you feel worthy of happiness and success.
- Confidence in your sense of belonging – whether you feel accepted and respected by others in the groups you are part of.
What actions you need and are willing to take to move two points forward on the scale in each of the areas?
Reflection and Dialogue about Self-Confidence
Work with a partner. Talk about self-confidence. Use these phrases to help you:
- My self-confidence is affected when...
- I am encouraged by...
- When I am criticized by others, I...
- Sometimes, I am discouraged from...
- I am motivated to do my best when...
- My engagement and will are strengthened when...
- When I feel I’m losing my confidence I...