A Coaching Power Tool created by Juliana Barco
(Life Coach, ITALY)
Love your Inner Power coaching model, is about a journey where you enter as the innocent, the archetype that wishes to experiment paradise and his goal is to reach happiness; then during the process we will get in touch with the seeker that lives in each and every one of us, whose bigger desire is to explore his inner self, finding freedom and power analyzing the world in him and around him. It’s a magic journey where you will seek the beauty of life, how amazing it can be, how much better you can do in life if only, you were to be your true self, if only you learned to listen to your inner wisdom. We already have the answers to everything inside of us, which means that you are more than ready to be great, to reach the top of the world!
When you’ll have reached the wise, when your goal will be to take the world into your hands, having learned and acknowledged all of your power tools, then you will have come to a point in life, where you will be more than ready to go on your own, and we will say goodbye, and shake hands, and hug, and you will enjoy the trip of life, with much more awareness, strength, freedom of mind and emotions, being very well aware of your inner wisdom, and there for trusting it and also listening to your intuition. You will have a blast!
There are some steps I think could be useful as a map during this journey, they are like little towns where once you get there, you can take a breath, feel safe and gain strength to keep moving forward in your journey.
The first stop is at Awareness, an amazing place to find yourself, to get in touch again with your values, your passion, your dreams and so many more beautiful things that live in your inner world, a place that is completely judgment free. Then as you walk the line empowered and free, then you’ll enter into Creativity, this magic place where everything and anything is possible, where you will find Focus. Once you’ve reached this point of your journey you will be ready to see the whole picture, you will be able to see life, reality, your inner and outside world, as one big beautiful opportunity to be happy, and so you will learn how to work with different angles of your mind, re-framing what once hurt, what once was simply wrong and not working for you, what once dis-empowered you; you will have so much fun at Re-framing Perspectives, that the only way to go after that, will be to go straight to Solution, the place where only you could go to finally listen to your inner wisdom, and make everything better.
I will always be there for you in this trip, holding your hand, giving you a safe place to be when things don’t look so pretty, listening and reminding you how to really listen to your heart, your gut, your intuition, your true self. I will provide for you a special place in time and space so that you can begin this amazing adventure.
The first step of creating awareness is recognizing that you want to be aware. It’s a very important part in your growing process because it develops self-awareness which means to know yourself and to be able to see and make peace with the not so pretty parts of you, that sometimes can be very scary. Once that you are aware, you will be able to identify the positive and negative areas of life, the behaviors that do you right and wrong. At this point is very important to have support –we as coaches are there for the client to support him/her, lo listen carefully as they tell us their thoughts, so they will no longer have to enter inner discussions with no end in their minds, nor have to feel judged or critiqued, and so that they will finally be able to move forward using those thoughts-
In this part of the process, there are three power tools I find very helpful: Powerful questions, Powerful listening and Visualization.
Powerful questions support the client along the way to see that there is always more than one possibility so that they will always have a choice; it also helps them see the situation they are in, from different perspectives, probably, ones that are more positive, and could help him/her move forward. By doing this, the client is seeing now a bigger picture, one that is more complete, and less focused on the negative dis-empowering parts of it. Now off course, powerful questions are not only about seeing possibilities and re-framing perspectives; they are also about helping the client be more self-aware so that he can also get closer to his inner wisdom.
Powerful listening is not only about being present non judgmental and genuinely curious; it is also about understanding the client’s point of view, listening carefully so that we understand what excites them, what inspires them, who they are because of how they use the words, how they move while talking, their pace, their rhythm, their tone of voice. Power listening is about listening to what the client says and what he doesn’t say. This helps the client trust you, and so he will speak more, he will open up more, he will feel in a safe place where he can say as much as needs to; in order to do this, we as coaches, must support them by asking them to elaborate, by asking powerful questions that are based on genuine curiosity rather that a personal judgment, using body language like smiles and facial expressions, paraphrasing, and so on.
Visualization is very powerful when helping a client at any step of the process. Now that we are creating awareness and developing it, questions that might help to start would be: