A Coaching Model Created by Alejandro Fernandez
(Leadership Coach, COSTA RICA)
A Coaching model to arise from the life’s Ordeals
After navigating in a long dark night were I lost from myself. I came out to reclaim redemption and help other initiates into a life of broader possibilities. This is my gift to you, to all the souls lost in the sea of darkness: You will thrive
What is the Dark Night?
- A turbulent passage in your life filled with tribulation. During this passage, beliefs that you once considered essential, are collapsed. As a consequence of that, you feel trapped into a plethora of profound dilemmas full of paradoxes and contradictions.
- Some examples of dark nights can be: Losing your job and not being able to find another, a beloved one passes away unexpectedly, you find that you spouse cheated on you, a terminal disease is diagnosed or you experience a deep spiritual and existential crisis. Those are just examples, what really describes a dark night is not the outer experience or the conditions that triggered it, but the inner feeling of your whole world falling apart.
The Dancing Through the Dark Night
Tools To Carry In Your Backpack Through The Dark Night
Powerful Questions Sampler
- What if your life’s ordeals are paths to purification rather than mere punishments for our unconscious actions?
- What if we regard the dark times of our life as rite passages to rip off obsolete parts of our identity?
- Are our tribulations real callings to acquire consciousness of our dark side and stop being at its mercy?
- What would happen if our intention to end the dark night is replaced with the intention to contemplate it from a place of wisdom and awareness?
- What would happen if rather than pretend to expel your demons by repressing them –and therefore making them stronger-you sit down and have a cup of tea with them?
- Have you considered that darkness is darkness just because you turn your back at it, rather than lighten it with the eyes of your consciousness?
- What would happen if you regard your dark night as a rebellion from your consciousness rather than a place of depression and trauma?
- Have you considered that the dark night could be a solution to your complex dilemmas that have tormented you for decades?
- What if your dark knight constitutes a way to drain old beliefs that accumulated pain for years? A way to remove the blockage built by your ego to perpetuate an unsustainable identity?
- If you could change the depressive idea of the dark night, what would happen if you look with deep irony and humor this obscure passage?
- How would you feel if you look at your negative emotions not as signs that there is something wrong, but as trials to shape anew person?
- If your dark night could speak to you and tell you that it has come to teach you something, what would it say?